Wow you nailed it man.
Absolutely true what you mention about gaslighting. It really can fuck up with someone's mind and make them question their own sanity. Everyone should really ask themselves why they want to have kids in the first place. It's horrible to think that many choose to do so because it's "what you're supposed to do" or because "it's the logic next step to do in our relationship". That's how we fuck future generations up. By bringing souls into this world so we can use them as an extension of our unlived dreams. and lives.