Effective Ways to Manage Anger and Avoid Regrets

Being able to manage one's anger is an important skill to be in control of one's emotions in order not to act without thinking and end up doing something that can be regretted in the future.

From experience, I have come to know that making decisions when you are angry can come at a costly risk. We may act differently from how we would have acted if we were in the right state of mind to analyse the situation. So learning to remain calm in any situation is a skill we all need to learn.

I would not say I have totally learned to be calm, but I try as much to be careful not to decide on matters when I feel annoyed about something or angry. In this situation, I find the best possible means of suppressing my anger before acting or deciding on anything.

Here are the ways I try to manage my anger:

1. Excuse myself from the source of my Anger: When I get angry with someone, I try my best to leave the place where the person is in order not to fuel my anger as long as the person remains in my presence or environment.

If there is not much space in which I can leave the environment, I close my eyes and try to take my mind off of something else that I may find pleasant and that makes me calm. I do this because I know that when I get deeply angry, I may tend to regret my decisions.

2. Talk to a friend: Most times, it may be difficult to get a situation out of the mind, and staying alone would get your mind still thinking about the scenario that could be the cause of your hanger.

I prefer to call a friend for advice or to talk out my mind in order not to end up acting out of anger. There are different scenarios when I get pissed at something, and I call Olujay to express my feelings on the issue so that I can calm my nerves. And since Olujay is a good friend, I get good advice from him.

3. Try to put myself in the shoes of the other person: Sometimes I get disappointed by people, which may be annoying, and in these cases, I try to put myself in the shoes of the other person to know why the person would have acted that way.

I do this because I know it is not about me alone and that the feelings of the other person are also important. They could be in a circumstance where they have no other choice but to act the way they may have acted, and instead of just pissing all over it, I try to be understanding.

These are the major 3. What about you? How do you manage your anger?

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