Ego flatrate or true love? Lets find out.
Most of the time when someone says "I love you" it really means: "your physical body gives my brain an overdose of Neurochemicals so my brain decides to speak these words to get what it wants right now".
There is a true difference between physical attraction and the feeling of total compassion to the whole being of someone.
Thinking patterns that destroy love
It doesn't´t matter what you think, it´s the fact that you think that blocks the entrance to your heart. Your mind will always find a reason to protect itself from the not existing danger if you let it.
There is no way your mind will ever be quiet if you identify with it. What seems like the love of your life will look as the heroin of relationship when it comes to your survival tool called mind.
One of the biggest illusions of the brain is the need for someone. Often people think that they need someone and that is the reason why they act so manipulative in their relationships because they do everything to not loose that someone. I guess you already know what that leads to, the exact opposite of love.
Viewing the partner as someone that must make you happy
This is one of the reasons most couples break up. They tie themselves up with the expectation that the other person will serve them. Nobody will ever do that for you unless they love you right? But why do you expect it then?
True Love isn´t expecting to get good feelings from someone. It´s about having unconditional feelings for someone and sharing that.
So most couples that are co-dependent believe that they love each other when the´re just restricting their own behaviors so that the counterpart won´t loose that (fake) love due to the ego.
Wanting to know the self in someone else
It isn´t as good as it rhymes, most humans actually search for themselves in other people.
Relationships are very good to discover yourself if you are happy by yourself. Because when you are happy without someone you need is no longer there, what means you can give as much love as you wan´t.
You can discover the facets of your being that gives without restriction. That´s a benefit of an healthy relationship because you can constantly know a bit more about your true being (a being that loves).
That doesn´t work if you wan´t to discover what you are not (your darkness). So when you wan´t to see your partner do something particular you activate the part in you that says: I wan´t to be that kind of person that is admired by everyone.
As you can tell that would be the ego illusion telling you that you are not good as you are and that you need to be or have something that you believe you´re not.
I'm outtie
-Benjamin Azike
