To have a place where you become comfortable and relaxed is indeed a luxury that only few persons can afford... I can still remember how terrible one of my accommodations was, it wasnt so different from this
i want to share my firsthand experience to this reality i faced .
if you have never found yourself in a less comfortable place where seem unwelcoming then you may never come to understand how fortunate you are ... fortunate to an extend that you might not have the psychological disturbance of how terrible lack of accomodation can be.The thing i see about accomodation here is no matter how it is, there is this satisfaction you get knowing that you own the place where you live, you are in-charge and also in control of your being. there is usually a sense of responsibility that usually comes to mind automatically such that you just realize that you are not whom u were or used to be...
The first time i got my personal accomodation at the university days, i just felt this instinct of control, i feel in control, i feel the power of making, designing, arranging and keeping things the way i want it to be kept, styling the place to my taste, my bed positioning, my books arrangement, the time i wake from sleep, all of these i now control them unlike how it used to be at home with my parents where they almost choose how u spend your time, where and almost what to do with the time. It was not a good experience for me especially the sleeping part where they wake me up at their own timing , i love to sleep till when i feel its time to wake up. Cutting off my sleep has always caused me a sharp headache that could ruine my day or hours of my day.
Things will always take a different turn when u just realized that u have a friend whom u need to accommodate for whatsoever reason ranging from a short term stay to a regular stay and to a long term stay... Depending on the kind of person u are accomodating, at first it will seem normal as though the time of the persons stay will come and pass away only for you to realize that the person is not organised and as such you begin to pray that his or her period of stay should come to an end... sometimes you may not have the gut to communicate it to him or her because of the good history you had but you will just get fed with a disorganised person. Better is the case when the person you are accomodating is Organised,
it becomes a relief and the two of you may stay as long as possible without you realizing how fast the time goes by.
My kind of peron is one who loves keeping company for many reasons especially when the company is or are of like-mind with me, there would always be no ends to our discussions because we tend to always be engaged with one another...
The third face of my accomodation experience is when i get accommodated by someone, a friend for instance . It becomes natural of me to know that this person accomodating me would have loved his or her privacy but for whatever reason he or she chose to accommodate me as such i dont take it for granted and wouldn't want to do whatever that will make the person uncomfortable, for that i try to make myself useful around the house making sure i dont violate his or her basic privacies. Depends on how long i am staying, i never want to stay beyond my welcome so i had face my core business and get moving .
The truth about accomodating someone else is that, mostly its not easy because in someway you have to look away from the persons behaviour just so there can be oneness and cooperation within the period of the persons stay but its always fun when you happen to accommodate some kind of persons, they make you feel more comfortable and wanting them to even stay longer.By many experiences so far gone has make me to know that when staying with someone it has become my natural instinct to make sure i can atleast take care of my feeding, and if for any reason i am in better financial state i ensure that i offer help with utility bills and maybe toiletries depending on how long i shall be staying and if i am short in financial supply then i must inform you before coming over so that you know my state of finance before i come and become a heavy burden on you whatsoever, such little gestures of helping with small side bills would make your presence welcoming and enjoyable and i think its more reasonable to come to light of such matters before going to a place and becoming a potential time ticking bomb.It would be much appreciated if we take note of these should you want to accommodate someone or be accommodated by someone...
thank you for reading what i have to share , glad someone is here to relate.
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