I could have a field day talking about virtues, as a lot of them are very important. It's not like I have them all anyway. Loyalty and honesty are important to me, but honesty is the most important of both.
"Honesty implies a refusal to lie, steal, or deceive in any way" (Merriam-Webster dictionary).
I am a believer in speaking the truth, living in it, and dealing with it. It is always hard on us when we hear people say things that we do not want to hear. The mind has been conditioned to believe lies so easily that we never want to hear anything else.
I have lived my life and am still trying to live it by being honest about everything. Dishonesty burdens the heart and mind. There's a kind of peace that comes with speaking the truth. And also, forgiveness comes more easily when you’re honest. You're able to let go of the shackles that tie you down when you have done something illicit when you talk about it.
Lying to me is the greatest harm anyone can do to me. It is said that sometimes it is better to lie than speak the truth. I think not. How would I face my reality if you were not honest with me? Half-truth is not honesty either. Most people who lie or say half-truths are actually doing more harm than good. Face the truth, face the facts, and face reality; that is my motto. A lot of unnecessary drama and damage can be avoided if honesty is the watchword for everyone.
I believed I had been in a relationship for three years. I wanted to spend my future with him. When I decided to call it quits for reasons best known to me, he said that it was a real relationship anyway and that he wouldn’t ask me to stay. Wait! Like what?!!! It hurt me so much because everything I believed to be the truth was actually a lie. It is really bad to see me as a soft-hearted girl, then deceive me while breaking my heart and cheating on me within those three years. That was damage that took more than a few months to get over. There are lies. And no lie is less than the other. A lie is a lie.
It has been generally thought that women can’t accept the truth, even if they hear it. It is wrong! We can! Yes, we can! Be honest in a kind way. Say your truth in the kindest way you can. It may hurt, but it is for the best. A lot of people are trying to recover from the life-changing discovery of the lies that they were told.
I will add another thing: honesty with self. This is the most difficult thing to manage. It is tough for me sometimes. Don’t glamorise your life; be real, be honest with yourself, and seek to be better. Trust me, you’ll find yourself being a better person and better at life without a qualm.
"When you live your life with honesty and integrity, there is nothing that anyone can ever take away from you." - Guy Sebastian.
