The marriage world is a different place all together. It’s not like dating and can’t be compared with dating. Therefore, thinking because you are good at dating you can also be good at marriage is a fallacy. Some young singles think marriage is just like staying with an opposite sex and enjoying the euphoria every now and then. The very things you think are exciting in dating relationships may not necessarily be exciting in marriage. Therefore before you rush to get married, bear in mind that marriage is never like dating, so you better prepare for it.
It’s so unwise to tie up your happiness in marriage. In fact, there’s no happiness in any marriage in this world, it’s rather the couples who put the happiness in there. Therefore, putting all your hopes in getting married to be happy is never a wise decision to make. Never be misled by the media or the television shows; they are all fake. What you see the couples do in the movies doesn’t really happen in marriage. Therefore, don’t think what you are seeing in movies will be translated into your marriage once you do, because it won’t.
Most young ladies out of desperation lock themselves up in abusive marriages. They ignored all the warning signs thinking they were in love and needed to settle down badly and therefore, settled for anything that promised marriage. People who get desperate for marriage don’t really make the right choices. Never allow your emotions to do the thinking for you but use your head.
In life anything you rush into, you rush out. Most rushed marriages lack the kind of foundation the couples really need to build a wonderful marriage. You can even take a cue from relationships where the couples just meet and within few days start a hot romantic relationship. The relationship just dies off after a short period. Reasons why most of these marriages lack a good foundation is because the couples ignore certain important factors which are necessary to building a successful marriage.
Most people who are desperate to get married are not really motivated by love or maturity. This is because love does not rush, it’s never in a hurry but rather patient enough to work things out for the right time. Therefore, if you or your partner is desperate to get married, then know for sure that something else is motivating you to get married and not necessarily that you are prepared. In the face of challenges, you will tend to look for means to run out of the marriage.
Desperation has greatly led to the crash of many marriages. Hence there’s the need to wait, take time and build your relationship on trust, respect, love, honesty, faithfulness and other virtues that can help you build a better relationship with your partner.
