Sometimes, its seems easier to say...- " i respect you" than having the action of respect . And most of the times, people often anticipate things in return, situation such as " You should respect me, in order for me to respect you in return".
Lets talk about RESPECT.
From my point of view, RESPECT IS TO BE EARNED, NOT TO BE GIVEN.
One may earn respect by many ways. Some of the ways I show respect are:
However, the definition differs based on each individual. Some people may think, buying material things or luxury things (in this way, respect equals to dollar sign) to give people, is a way to show respect. I rather believe it is a sign of "SHOW-OFF". For a shallow and materialistic receiver, sooner or later will be easily bribe by all these material and confused the true meaning of respect. When he or she met a person and no longer to receive good things or material from the person, the habit receiver will degrade the person.
I am not a person who prone to such "bribe" idea. Ironically, majority of the people in the world is materialistic.
Over the past few years, I have confused and could not draw a clear line of respect. After marrying, moving in with the in-laws, things has gone out of shape. I carry on with my principles, however my principles contradicted with theirs. Many times, they feel(especially in in law) "respected" by receiving many material gifts. However, whenever not receiving desire gifts, they feel being degraded. its tough though living in such environment. Knowing myself not from a wealthy family and i will need to work extra hard to earn extra income, spending every single cent is crucial. On the other hand, my husband's family is pretty wealthy and siblings are doing pretty well in life too. Their lifestyle is very much fancy lifestyle. So i believe they have used to "higher social grade" . Anyway, i was living in hell. and how i have moved out to have a new life.
I strongly believe that to overcome such unfair treatment, one should learn to 'upgrade' mental health. There are many courses to encourage physiological grow. Everyone should acknowledge that improvement in MIND BODY AND SOUL is essential to have a higher level of realization.
I recently actively upgrading myself in listening and reading information revolving mind body and soul. and hopefully i have a different point of view or a better deeper realization on this word-RESPECT.
