Whenever someone uses violence and abuse against a partner it's usually part of a larger pattern of control,if you are being abused by your partner you'd feel angry,trapped or confused and afraid. All of these are normal responses to abuse. You could also blame yourself for what is happening.
No matter what people might say,you're not responsible for your partner's abusive actions.
Abuse in relationships is not caused by drugs,alcohol,stress or anger mismanagement....It is a choice to be abusive.
I urge us all to correct in love and not sanction..Be slow to anger and when it's almost so overwhelming,don't let it get the best of you..Remember it's human to err and keep your head cool to understand situations better.