"Distance means so little when someone means so much". I couldn't relate to this saying before and never have I ever thought I would find myself in a long distance relationship until it happened. A year ago, I took the risk of committing myself to someone living half way around the globe. It was scary as hell but the idea of not giving a chance to happiness was much scarier. People kept on saying that long distance relationships are not "real"relationships and that it is doomed to end. Maybe they are right, or maybe they are wrong. But I say, whatever and whoever makes your heart happy and full, go for it! I think life is a gamble, love most of all. Go take the risk!
Here are my realizations being in a long distance relationship:
1 C O M M U N I C A T E!
Well, in all human relationships, communication is always essential. But you gotta double or triple that effort when you're in LDR. You cant expect your partner to guess what's on your mind through actions when he's half-way across the world! Constant communication between the two of you is a must to make up for the distance between the two of you. It will make you feel less farther from your partner and more closer to his heart. Chooos! Talk about anything under the sun, from your nonsense fart issues to all the seriousness that life may bring. Talk! Talk! Talk!
TALK WHENEVER YOU CAN. Even flood with selfies. 馃槀
2 Strong Communication may also mean Strong Wifi Connection
Nothing is more annoying than a super slow and snail mail-like wifi connection when you are calling or chatting with your partner. When both of you are saying 'hello? babe can you hear me?' hello?hello? oh shoot' .馃槀 It can really affect the mood. You just wanna smash your phone or laptop and scream "give me looooooooove!" ala Ed Sheeran.
3 BOTH OF YOU ARE WILLING TO SACRIFICE
What I mean here is that both are willing to sacrifice their sleep. 馃槀 Really especially when theres a 12-hour gap in your timezones, timezones are really crazy. Im from Philippines so imagine my mind when he said something about Daylight Saving. I dont know that thing. 馃槀 Like the song says "you say good morning when its midnight...I wake to your sunset" so you got to plan it wisely so you can talk with your loviedovie. 馃榿
4 YOU CAN BE BOTH COMFORTABLE WITH SILENCE
I know I said before that talk talk talk! But there are times that one or both of you just want to have a nice quiet moment together. You should be comfortable with that. You should be comfortable looking through the screen of your phone or laptop while the other one is just silent as a tree or just sleeping. 馃槀 No worries, youll find that you enjoy staring at your partner's sleeping face through that screen.
5 YOULL BE KISSING YOUR PHONE SCREEN MORE OFTEN
If youre in LDR, this will most likely happen so gotta keep your phone clean you know. 馃榿
6 YOULL FIND YOURSELF JEALOUS OF OTHER COUPLES
Most of the time, when you see couples who can touch, kiss, or hug each other whenever they like, youll get a little jealous. Youll think that how lucky these people are for their love one is on their side, at arm's length, but never lose hope or faith! Just think of that day when youll see each other and be together, it will be more magical and breathtaking! And for sure, you wouldnt take every moment for granted!
7 YOULL BE LISTING THE THINGS YOU WANT TO DO WITH HIM
Yes, youll be daydreaming and youll have a checklist of the things you want to do with your partner. From snuggling to having ice cream together. Cheesy but what can you do, youre in loooove.
8 T R U S T
Big worrrd! Yes, this is the hardest part. To keep on trusting your partner. There are times that our insecurities, jealousy, and overthinking take over and disagreements arise. But! Dont let these things defeat the love you have, as long as you can, with all you might and will, remember the love you felt for your partner and why you started the journey! charuuuuus!
So to all of us who are in Long Distance Relationship, may we all be happy in the end with the risk we took!
