It is true that we must maintain a positive mind to live well and grow so that our environment is the best, but… There are certain NO that we must learn.
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One of the worst decisions in our life was this, really when you form a family and are not prepared, things tend to be difficult at first, especially when you have small children, the expense of milk, diapers and among many more, we saw ourselves in a situation, where we completely blocked ourselves and decided to borrow, at that time we did not see any way out that was not there, all due to lack of knowledge, because if we had organized our finances a little more it would not have been necessary. Anyway, we did it and then the problems arrived, when the interests began to steal our tranquility, fortnight to fortnight to pay a fee which we did not see progress and instead of helping our situation what we did was to get worse, when the solution was always In our hands there was nothing more than just organizing our income and little by little everything is accommodated, there tools to generate a little more and be able to get ahead without getting entangled in a loan from which to get out is difficult and you lose more than you imagine, even There are people who get used to it and in the end they owe more than they earn each month and in the end they work to pay and see nothing.
Many times sellers of beauty products, household products, perfumes, cleaning products, portraits among others come to your house or we simply see on the internet a super offer of something that we love and our impulsive instinct for purchases makes us take that responsibility and spend what that we do not have,
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I was one of these, a salesman who passed by the house, asked him for something and weekly passed for his money, money that he did not have since at that time they do not work so my husband had to run with that whim and many times It brought me problems, it was a serious mistake to spend what I had and even if you have, you should know the value of the effort to earn it and if it is worth spending it on silly things that are not necessary. I was very blind in that sense and today I have a great teaching of this.
We all have friends or family who are going through problems, but… If they don't ask you for advice, try to keep your mouth shut.
On one occasion I remember being at the house of a friend, it was a meeting we had several people and among the conversations one came out where he commented on certain situations with his partner, he took them as something normal, including hurtful words and despotic treatment, he paid attention like everyone else , but I saw that he was saying it as if it were a simple comment and he did not take it more importance and of course instead of shutting up and tying my tongue, I did the opposite, I got into what I did not care about…. I
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gave him some advice, of course because for me this was physical and mental aggression, but to my surprise instead of receiving a thank you !! I earned a feud because she simply did not ask for advice, for her everything was fine.
If someone is upset but they don't want to see it and they don't want to listen then just let them learn on their own.
Have you heard that the business enters at home? Well, if I have this well-marked rule and my family knows it, because your effort must have value within all Areas and your income must be recorded in general, when my youngest son was newborn I stayed at home when he and his sisters, but I was always looking for a way to generate something to support with certain expenses, I made fruit ice creams and sold them at home,
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then with the profits I bought various items that I knew were necessary at home such as oil, sugar among others and sweets for the children that I lived around I started a mini business and having children at home they would imagine that they wanted everything, but they always got used to buying because we have taught him the value of effort, even my husband who loves arepas and that was another of me Entrepreneurships he sold on request at a university and he delivered them but he always let me pay his for his breakfast, now imagine if this with the family, when more with friends your work costs ta, your investment is important, do not give away the value of your effort.
I learned this through experiences since I was little, I grew up in a dysfunctional family, since I was 10 years old I lived with my father and my brother and my father's family has always been dominant, everything was as they decided, when they said it and without the right to make my own decisions and it is that not even my birthdays could be how I liked all the decisions were made by them, even what I had to study, I was not fifteen because they wanted to choose me even the dress, nothing was as I dreamed or how I expected And I did not want anything,
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I preferred that they did not make me a party and I only received the ring, it is frustrating that they decide for you, as parents we make mistakes, it is not to please, it is to teach them to be independent, to make their own decisions as long as they are within what is allowed There, children who grow up and become adults and are nobody without mom and dad, because they were never taught to be independent, make decisions and learn from mistakes. You are free to make your own decisions and if you make a mistake then you learn from that mistake and move on in life.
We've heard a lot lately about suicides on the rise, people who can't express what they were going through or feeling. Our emotions, our feelings are very important, staying with my father and my brother I suffered a lot, I only see my mother on weekends and from Monday to Friday I had to be with these 2 people who always had a strong character, I did not talk to anyone, I only received orders and harsh words, gifts, punishments and even blows that then when I reached the fourth year affect me emotionally,
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I tried to take my life but it was there that one of the school counselors realized that something was happening , when he saw my legs marked. She invited me to speak and I released everything I felt, loneliness, frustration, sadness and anger. She decided to call my father and he understood that all that time he had done it wrong, that he was never there for me and that he was leading me to an abyss, it was not much that changed, because as a father he did it but my brother until the sun today we have the same differences he has never been that older brother that we usually see, but I overcame it, thanks to the fact that my feelings were able to free them , speak and express myself in a way that I did not keep anything that would later lead me to make incorrect decisions.
If you are going through a situation, do not make a bad choice, speak up and do not save what you feel. There is someone who can listen to you and support you.
I remember when I was 14 years old, I liked to comb my hair with braids, bows and others, my brother had a girlfriend, she was all regal, of course much older than me ... I was in the bathroom combing my hair and she came over and told me that I was already quite old For that, I had to look more like a woman, I got very angry and we argued and I continued being me…
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I liked it, yes, period, today I am 32 years old and I still like it I have always been like that, whoever knows me knows it, my Life partner loves me and accepts me as I am, do not stop being you, because others say so, I know how you like to be, love yourself and do not pretend to please others living behind a mask, I am who I am because I value myself and because I know that my virtues are many, everyone has their tastes as they say ... "To taste the colors"
Be happy…
That's right, dependence is an evil that influences many aspects of life, many women who we see being violated by their partners and are still living with that toxic person, because of the dependence that it has generated, I do not support feminism because I think it is Something extremist, but if I support an independent woman capable of getting ahead on her own,
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that if I remain single, fight for her children and for her and this is not only seen in women, I have had to see men with this dependence and it is something that damages emotionally and it disrupts lives, dependency should be treated, we must raise our children, so that as they grow up, they value themselves and learn to be people of value. It always depends on you, your effort and your knowledge.
And although on many occasions the "NO" can be bad, paradoxically for me they have been more than a lesson, some have become a refuge of life and although many times at first I did not understand, today they have contributed to my growth as a person!
When one door closes another is opening to improve your circumstances, do not depend emotionally or physically on anyone, you are more capable than you think and you have more value than you can see.
