That's right, that is exactly what I try every day and it is not that I have not felt frustration, on the contrary, of course I have felt that desire to explode with that person who has hurt me. But then I breathe and try to control my emotions.
I think about many scenarios and make a decision with the greatest possible sanity.
I am glad that you take this in a positive way, many times I have been afraid of what they may think of my past, but then I understand that it was not totally my fault, that although I should have been cautious, I tried to be a good person at all times, but however, perhaps it was not the time for me.
I hope this article serves for those who, as you say, seek to hide in their past and justify their bad attitudes and know that they live much better without keeping negative pasts that delay their emotional growth.
Every day I see him with my brother, I still do not understand what resentment he has towards me, but what I am sure is that he is not entirely happy and although he does not love me, believe me it hurts to think that he still lives bitter and alone, no, He has nothing for sure and when my parents are not there, what will happen to him? I think about it every day ... because if he doesn't accept me, how can I get close to him? ...
It only remains to wait and continue trusting that one day it will change. Thanks for your time and for your good thoughts.
RE: equanimity in a slightly unfair life