I rarely go back home, but then again for me it’s $1000 USD and a 14 hour plane ride. It’s really hard to give you advice on this, but I tend to be a little self-indulgent. I may go back to make my parents happy but I won’t do it if it causes me a lot of trouble. In the end I can make them happier if I make myself happy first. But your mother isn’t doing well so….I don’t know! 🧸