There's what like 3.6 billion women on the planet?
Obviously, you are not going to desire the majority of the women in the world. So we can cross out all of the ones who are physically not to your taste. If you don't find a woman attractive, don't hit on her, don't ask her out, don't do anything.
That said, decide whatever you like in a woman by your own standards. If you like big girls or curvy girls, go for it. If you prefer black girls with dreadlocks, more power to you. If you like older women or younger women, cool. Don't pressure yourself to live up to someone else's standards. And again, for the love of god, if you don't find her attractive, don't pursue her.
For practical purposes, we can divide up all of the women you're attracted to into three categories : Receptive, Neutral and Unreceptive.
Let's start with Unreceptive.
They're unavailable and/or uninterested in having a sexual/romantic relationship with you. The most common reasons that put women in this category are the following :
- You're far needier than she is, and she's therefore not attracted to you.
- She has a boyfriend/husband and is happy in her relationship
- There's too much friction preventing her from being willing to date you, such as a difference in values, difference in
interests, bad logistics, etc. - She's not interested or looking for any man at the moment
The way to tell if a woman is Unreceptive is if she repeatedly does not reciprocate your signs of interest and/or shows you signs of disinterest.
Simply stating to her "I think you're cute/pretty/attractive/funny/whatever want to grab coffee/dinner/a drink sometime?"
If you invite her out for coffee and she keeps making excuses to why she can't, then she's Unreceptive.
The next category is Neutral.
This category can be difficult for men to understand because it’s not as common for us as it is for women.
The important thing to know is that women do not ever stay in this category. They eventually polarize one way or the other. And if you never make an advance or show interest in them, then they will usually polarize towards being Unreceptive. They’re still testing the waters. Or sometimes, they just haven’t considered you in that way yet.
And in the final category
Women who are Receptive are women who are sexually/romantically attracted to you.
You can recognize women who are Receptive in two ways: 1) they initiate with you, and/or 2) they reciprocate your actions enthusiastically.
Some examples of a woman initiating with you:
- She makes strong eye contact with you and doesn’t
break it. - She approaches you.
- She touches you unprovoked.
- She asks for your number or invites you out with
her/her friends. - She asks you a lot of questions about yourself and
seems genuinely interested in you. - She introduces you to her friends.
- She gives you her number.
- She comes up with some excuse/story/reason for you
to hang out with her or spend time with her.