"FRIENDSHIP is in fact the only form of emotional relationship that is not accompanied by ambivalence. In love, it is possible to hate a loved one. We are affectionate towards parents and towards our own children. We can not, however, be ambiguous towards friends. If ambiguity appears in us, friendship is hurt. The friend is clear and bright, free of double. Meeting with him is a luminous point in the opaque surroundings of ambivalence, a moment that interrupts the continuity of ambiguity "
(Francesco Alberoni)
We can build friendship at every stage of life and in all interpersonal relationships: peers, neighbors, community, professional, fiancee, marital, parental, religious and political. While erotic love usually develops between people around the same age, friendship does not set such limits.
The difference in age, education, gender, property status, and religion does not constitute a greater obstacle to friendship, as long as friends find common ground for meeting, exchange of ideas, dialogue and creative work. Friendship is thus the relationship that accompanies man from childhood until his death. Even more - true friendship goes beyond the threshold of death.
Making a friendship is usually done in a spontaneous way. And although we can, and even should look for friends, we are not allowed to make a person whom we have chosen - against her will - to try to make our friend. In building friendships, you can not afford even the shadow of violence. Any manipulation of the behavior and freedom of fellowman means that they are moving away from us.
Friendships arise and grow in a climate of spontaneity, freedom, lack of self-restraint. "The most important rule of friendship is the lack of any rules," said Federico Arvesú.
If friendship is to be authentic and mature, friends should give each other full freedom. All forms of appropriation, possession, jealousy and mutual manipulation are contrary to friendship. Friendship also requires some detachment from one's needs, desires and preferences, in a word - self-denial.
To establish friendship, we also need faith in it. It usually grows in early childhood. Rightly so stories for children are saturated with trust in the world and faith in the possibility of building friendships.
Beautiful memories of childhood are undoubtedly associated with beautiful friendships from this period of life. In childhood, when love seems distant and looks at it with some disregard, friendship plays a great role.
With a friend, he undertakes the first expeditions into the world to discover his greatness and beauty. Little friends share everything that is interesting and fascinating. They never get bored in their presence. They will always find an interesting way to spend time. Going on vacation, they part with no regrets, after a few weeks to meet again for great mutual pleasure. Little friends often remember each other, but their excessive longing is not enough.
In childhood, he shares with a friend anxieties related to growing up, incomprehension on the part of adults, first successes. The presence of a friend in moments of failure is especially sought. In failure, a friend will not degrade, but he will certainly understand and give a helping hand. And although he can not remedy many difficulties, because he is also helpless, he - like no other - will comfort himself with his presence and compassion.
A friend during childhood also helps to assess his own strength and believe in himself more. Hot conversations, quarrels, quarrels, as well as joint armwrestling, which sometimes turns into a friendly competition, allow you to appreciate and accept yourself and your own abilities. Even if a friend turns out to be stronger, more capable or more athletic, he will never humble or laugh.
Let's respect our friends and let us always be true to them !
