Three months and two days - We made him go to Bangalore to my younger brother's house and today he came back. The pleasure in coming back to home is so intense - he is very happy reaching here. Yes, he is my father, whom we purposely sent to Bangalore.
There was some reasons - Covid forced his lifestyle restricted to just one room. He is now 81 and has been vaccinated with two doses of vaccine. He had friends whom he used to meet every day before Covid. At 4'o clock he would walk around 800 meters and on the bank of the pond (shared in this post) they would sit and talk for more than a hour. Most of them were in his age group - seventies or eighties. That socialization was the greatest happiness for him. But with Covid everything changed. They used to stop going there, and everyone was forced to stay at home. Some of his friends even died about which, we did not inform him. The reason being, he also has some heart issues and have a pace maker fitted since last 11 years.
Over the time, he preferred to sit in his room most of the time and even developed early stage dementia. When the Covid cases decreased, we have tried to accompany him in going out in walks - also he used to drive a scooty - so I went with him inspiring him to drive again, because once, he was hit lightly and fell down. All of this was to bring back him to what he was - a very cheerful person, whom everyone admires. My friends tell me that you have the best father - he is like a friend and there was always smile on his face. He loved to meet and talk to people - anyone comes to house, he will take that plea to order for all the delicious foods, especially all kind of non-veg - I sometimes wonder, how he has so much of interest for non-veg even today.
On September 8 he went to Bangalore. He was not very happy going there, but we persuaded him strongly to change the place. We were expecting that, he will have some change in mindset. I had these photos from that day.
My two brothers above - the right one is the eldest and the left one is the youngest. After spending around three months, he is back - very happy to be in his own place. Just before few days, he fell unconscious at my brother's home and was rushed to hospital - he developed some chest infections. He was in the hospital for couple of days - all tests done, and there is nothing serious. Bangalore being a cold climate, it's better to bring him here.
Mom was very excited for his return, she knew that, he will look out for some non-veg, so I had to go and get some live fish from the market. They bring them live in these big containers and they will show you before cutting them. And he spills out all the fresh blood to sell more.
I probably have told this in my earlier posts but would love to repeat - we must feel privileged to have them this long in our life and enjoy every moment taking care of them. Their very presence brings the confidence - we always feel like a child with them and same goes with them. I am not sure, we will even reach this age group and our children would even have this kind of care for us, so why not enjoy what we have ?
At this age, they need very little - but that little too much. It's for them we are in this world - so why not give them that little which we can. It just needs your will power to care for them. My mom was alone all these days - you must have seen, my posts about my native place. I was trying spend maximum time with her, leaving my wife and kids alone. Because I know, they can manage, but not my mother. You can bring them an organizer, but still someone need to organize the organizer.
