The most critical age, where they unknowingly need our controlled guidance
Time flies, but memories live with us. This was the kid, whom I was holding on and roaming and now he has grown up to a stage, where we have to listen to their suggestions, and sometimes even they take charge and we are in the back seat, enjoying the ride. It's kind of a transition phase, may be next few years will go like that, and then they become young enough to either request something or throw their decisions to us - ya that's the hard reality and generation gap, isn't it ? In our time, it was a pure request, that too full with fear, but that's completely different now. You have to counsel them in a very friendly manner and just can't throw your decisions on them. If the trust is built between us, then they almost listen to everything what we advise. Reminds me this famous Chanakya Sloka we read in our school times, which is so well suited :
लालयेत् पंचवर्षाणि दशवर्षाणि ताडयेत्। प्राप्ते तु षोडशे वर्षे पुत्रं मित्रवदाचरेत्॥
Fondle them for five years, control them for next ten years and once they are sixteen, behave like a friend. A verse said 2344 years back is so well suited for current generation. In fact, it's even difficult to control them till 15, if you loose the control once, if they become stubborn. And unfortunately, most of us lost control in Covid as things that were not supposed to be given to them were in their hands. But by God's grace the boy changed at the last moment and now is a lot more responsible. He now understands and accepts as I told in this post. He sacrificed the day for my parents and waited for the evening and I was obliged to show up for the dinner.
They had planned it well, as I was not here for more than a week and had called in couple of her school friends and their family at our favorite restaurant.
A mini low key get-together because, birthdays are supposed to be not celebrated in our family as per some old beliefs, but then as I said, you cannot simply say NO to everything. The chef even knows that it won't be celebrated with a big cake cutting, but he still brought in a miniature cake to make him happy.
Coming back, the beautiful empty road teased us to take some photos.
Imagine, in the midnight, when we are not happy with a selfi, a boy coming in cycle, we ask him to stop by (smokes coming out of mouth - that typical winter experience) and takes some photos and he shoots like a pro.
It was so much fun......None of his friends were invited for the party, because it was strictly a no celebration on that day. But then he wanted to go out with his friends only on another day, and it was a YES from our side. They do all the planning, like choosing the right restaurant, menu etc, all I did is drop them and then bring back and of course take some photos...
I loved the place as well, quite unique.
I have already got a back account open for him and his UPI set, so that he can pay wherever needed ( of course, I transfer the money). Boys always LOVE to see some funds in their purse ( or UPI Wallet in this digital world), isn't it ? I have felt it, do you agree ?
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