Motherhood is not easy. It comes with a lot of physical and mental challenges that a woman has to go through to raise her child. In the process, women loose their interest in taking care of their body and end up adding a few inches and flabs to their body. Well, it is perfectly normal and baby fat doesn't make you look ugly, but then it is important that we stay in shape not to impress anyone, but for our own health benefits.
But, there is more to it. My friend felt humiliated when her husband complimented her cousin on getting back to shape immediately after delivery. My friend couldn't handle it and the anger dam bursted on his face as the cousin. Crossed the audible limit outside the house. The husband tried pacifying her saying it was a general comment, but my friend was not ready to take it. Finally, he blurted out what my friend never wanted from hear, he told her to follow her cousin and get back to shape.
Was it tough? He got her a year long membership at the fanciest gym at a plush mall and got her maids to cook healthy food and to do the household chores. He just expected her to look fabulous, very much like what she was before their child's birth.
There she was at the gym the first day. There were many like her. All rich, fat and forced by their husbands to hit the gym. Few days and most of them became buddies. They would finish their evening routine and enter the Mc Donald's, Pizza Hut or anything else that the mall that housed their gym had in it's premises. The kids were left at the mercy of their maids and these ladies were loving the much needed me time. Few months passed and not a single lady was able to loose anything from their waistline.
The husband finally agreed that she is amazing in the way she presently is and he doesn't want to change anything in her and made her stop the gym at least for the sake of kids. She has caught her husband staring at young girls on their outings. She called me saying what does she have to do to stop her husband from looking here and there. I fail to understand why she couldn't understand what her husband wants when he told her in clear words what he wants.
A little big of self control and dedication would help her achieve that.