Greetings!
Ade was a very good man and the very youth pastor in our church. I would have loved to mention the name of the church, but because of the sensitivity of the matter I would like to share here, I will not mention the name of the church and I hope you people bear with me.
It all started on the 27th of December, 2025, when a female member of the youth church named Dolapo got angry at the youth pastor that she walked away from the sunday school class as it was then ongoing, when I saw her moving towards the exit door of the church, I ran after her and asked her saying,
“Sister Dolapo, hope there's no problem?” But she replied to me in a manner I would have less expected her to answer me, she said. “ Mr man, as you can see, you will see that there's a problem already and for now, I would advise you to leave me and go back to your pastor, ask him the same question you have asked me.”
When I heard her saying this, I had the feeling within me that all was not well at all and deep inside me, I was not happy with what I heard her saying and not only that, with what was happening among us in the church as the unity which we once enjoy in the church is now getting tampered with.
Everything was so annoying to me as the Sunday school class was already scattered. So, when she had said everything she had to tell me, I walked up to the youth pastor and asked him questions as well. When I got to him I asked him the question I asked Miss. Dolapo saying,
“Pastor Ade, hope everything is fine?” He replied and said, “Mr. Sam, there's no problem, it's just that this lady is lady.” “How sir?” I asked.
That was when Pastor Ade began to tell me how this girl would not answer questions in the Sunday school class whenever he asked them questions. He even told me that the girl was not brilliant at all and that she has this kind of an inferiority complex which is affecting her. He further stated that, all these and many more are those things that are making the lady in question, Miss. Dolapo to misbehave.
When I heard this, I was a little bit confused as I thought within myself how this kind of allegation would make the lady behave in such a manner as she had earlier behaved. One thing I have over time known about this girl is that she is a very cool headed and nice girl, so how would she now behave in such a manner that would bring her down to the lowest realm of life.
So, for this reason. I was not at all convinced about what the youth pastor told me about this said girl, although, I know that no one is perfect, but even at that, Dolapo is not the kind of a person that would disrespect anyone no matter what.
So, I tried to manage the situation at hand as I persuade all other members to get sorted after they have all scattered around the church premises discussing the issue in their groups, I heard some condemning the manner at which the lady had behaved, and to some, they were not happy with the way things were being handled by the youth pastor, but even at that, I brought everyone back to their seat as we continue with the class in that particular Sunday.
So, after the service, I made sure I cleared my doubt and this I did by going to sister Dolapo’s house in the evening of the same Sunday. On getting to her place, I met her with her parents and I tried to put her aside just to have a heart to heart discussion with her.
It's in my effort to call her aside that her parents told me to discuss everything I needed to discuss with her in their presence. I tried to tell them not to let it be like that, but they insisted on us having the discussion in their presence.
So, as I was about to start the discussion with her, the parents interrupted me and told me that I should not even disturb myself about the whole issue. They told me all that happened and from what I heard from the parents and their daughter, it was like pastor Ade, who happened to be the youth pastor was trying to have an extra-marital with the lady in which she refused as she had told the pastor she would not be interested in such affairs since the pastor was already married. This allegation was fully backed up with voice notes and text messages.
The parents told me that they would have brought the matter openly in the church if not that they did not want the church scattered, but I told them that they should have reported the issue to the council of elders which they promised to do going forward.
However, when I heard all what they had told me, I was shocked and disappointed in the person of the youth pastor who I regard so much, but instead of me approaching him, I decided not to since the family had said that they would report him to the church authority. When it was the next Sunday, he was reported to the church council of elders with evidence and immediately this was done, he was summoned and when he was found guilty of all the allegations, he was sanctioned and suspended and that was the end of his leadership of the youth church, after his suspension was over he didn't come back to the church and the last term u heard about him, I was told that he's now going to another church. I pray he will not do the same thing he had done in our church in his new church.
Thanks for reading.
Picture sourced from metaAi.