Greetings!
Losing someone very dear to us can be so disturbing and this is because of the close relationship that might have been in existence for the number of times one might have been together with them.
But one thing I have noticed and experienced on my own is that, it's not actually the loss of a dearly loved person that hurts but for their different roles that might have been left without any kind of replacement. The void being left for others to fill as a result of their loss is one thing that leaves a scar in the heart of those left behind may as a result of death, or as the case maybe. So, living without them in our lives can be so disturbing.
Just today, when my younger brother was having discussions with me, I had a flashback of what happened when we lost our mum to the cold hand of death. On the 23rd of February, 2011, when we lost our mum, it's a serious issue and indeed an irreparable loss. I cried my eyes out, but the tears could not even wake the dead body of my mum, it's like the world was over as we lowered her into her dug grave. As she was lowered into the grave, the hope of her coming back to life faded and it was then the reality of life came upon me, even though those people that were present were consoling but their consolations could not stop me from crying. I was crying not just for crying sake, but because of what lies ahead of me, and how I would cope without her being alive to see me through as she's promised.
So, after her burial, everybody left for their various homes and I and my brother were left alone. This was the most challenging moment of my life as the eldest son of the family and this is because I had to make decisions that would not bounce back at me, but the one that will be beneficial not only to me but to my younger brother as well.
So, it's in the process of making this decision after the death of my mum.that I took it upon myself to remain strong and face the challenges of life as it comes. This I did by not minding my strength and capacity, then i was already seeking admission into the university before the death of my mum, but when death came and took her away, it's almost impossible for me to continue my educational pursuit, but with determination, I applied to a construction company as a casual worker and there at the company, i was able to raise money both for our upkeep and not only that, but to proceed on our academic journey which i did without any stress. Though I missed my mum, life goes on.
Also, before I could finish with my own program, my younger brother also got admitted into the same school and with the help of God the proceed that I have made via my investment into buying of shares and other agricultural produce, I was able to raise fund for my younger brother education too and at the end we were both doing fine with our lives. Though it was tough at the beginning with family members and friends of the family failing in their promises, but with determination, I was able to pick up the pieces of my life after the loss of my mum and the success story is now sweet to tell.
This is my entry to the hivenaija weekly prompt.
Thanks for reading.
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