Greetings!
The life we are living in comes with alot of challenges that bring about emotions and feelings. Like I used to say, emotions is not particular to a particular set of people or gender. To some women are more emotional compared to men. Though, it might be true. But not completely true. So far you have blood and water running through your veins, then be rest assured that emotions and feelings will also run through your body.
One thing that used to get me emotional always is going to a an events, being it wedding, naming or other form of ceremony. The reason for this is not far fetched but stems from how I used to seeing mothers playing various role at their various sons and daughters celebration. This is a thing of joy for the child or children to be celebrated by their parents and there's nothing bad in it.
Hmmm! My being emotional about parents celebrating their ward or let me say their grown up children was from the fact that I lost my mum when I have not even celebrated anything in life. Though at her burial when I was crying, someone said, you better don't kill yourself by crying all days, she said, a day is coming when you will be more emotional about her death. She made reference to her own case, when she lost her mum at a very tender age and that at her wedding day, when she could not see her mum by her side or sitting as a mother, she was moved with tears and cried herself to stupor.
So, when he told me this, I was like, I will.get over it and that, I'm different from her since I am a man, so, for being a man, I thought I would not be affected, but when as time went by, i discovered it was not easy and going to any event and seeing how mothers used to stand and support their children at their events always got me moved with emotions.
There's one of such event in the year 2012, where a friend of mine was preparing for his wedding. So, as the preparation was ongoing, her mother was the one getting everything on his behalf and on the day of the wedding, the mother was so happy and she was up and down with smile on her face. She sat as the groom mother and it's was so colorful. I have also being to naming and convocation ceremonies where the effects of a mother can be strongly felt. And then and there, I used to be moved with the parents roles.
So, seeing all these at the various events and ceremonies I have in one way or the other attended, I used to be like, how would it be, when it's my own turn to be celebrated, I used to be like, who will celebrate or stand and fill the vacuum of my late mother? But I don't used to get answers to such questions I used to ask myself.
Lo and behold, my time to be celebrated came and expected and when the time came, I was all alone doing everything myself. My first celebration came through my convocation, when I was to be celebrated as a graduate from the university, I was the only one that went for my convocation. Though I have my friends with me, but my mum was not present. So, as people were being celebrated and bringing food to the school to share among friends and families, but that was not my own case, as I and two friends came to celebrate with me. On that particular day, I was moved to the marrow as I was called to have won my faculty prize. But my mum was not there to honor me.
Also, when I was to get married, no one was there for me, though I have the money and resources to get everything i needed, but no one to get all those stock for me. I was the one running errand for myself. Though I got it, but it was not easy and for me being a man, I didn't really know what to get, thank God for the list given to me, the list really put me through to getting all the stuffs needed.
Hmmm, but on the wedding day, the events of that particular day got me crying as there's was no one to be moving up and down as my biological mum. Though, I had a makeshift mum, who represented my mum on that particular day, but seriously, this my mum older sister could not fill the vacuum being left behind by my mum. I was moved to crying all my heart out. But thank God it was a successful one at that.
So, no one is too strong from being emotional. Like the saying in my language that says," it's a person that has not face battle that calls himself a strong man." That's just the truth. No one is strong than his temptation. The temptation that will be beyond our capacity will not come to us.
Thanks for reading.
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