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THE UNWRITTEN ETHICAL PRINCIPLES THAT GUIDES RELATIONSHIPS
The oxford dictionary defines a relationship as the way in which two or more people are connected, or the state of being connected.
On the other hand, ethics are basic moral principles that govern a person's behaviour or conduct. Ethics deal with what is good for individuals and the society at large.
For a relationship to be mutually satisfying and beneficial to the parties involved, certain ethical principles must be observed. Be they professional, family or romantic relationships, the principles which make for their success are similar.
Here are some ways to build better relationships with everyone
- Develop your communication skills.
The better and more effectively we communicate with those around us, the richer our relationships are. As we already know, it is better to listen more and talk less. Ensure you understand what the other person is communicating to you. People always respond to those who know how to listen. Ask questions if you do not understand what is being said. However, in asking questions, we must know when to repeat questions and when to simply rephrase them. This is to increase the chances of the listener completely grasping the meaning of the question we are putting to them. - Compassion is the opposite of judgment. Having compassion enables us put ourselves in the speaker's shoes to more perfectly understand where he is coming from. When you are compassionate, you have more power to chose the most appropriate response in the circumstance instead of simply reacting. Empathy is always appreciated by others.
- Create time for your relationships.
We always make time for things that are important to us. No matter how busy your schedule is, you need to nurture your relationships. That is, if the particular relationship is important to you. Not creating time for the other person is one of the clearest ways of telling him that he doesn't matter to you. The more time we devote to our relationships, the more beautiful these relationships become. - Honesty/truthfulness.
It is really not good hiding truths from the other person. No matter how bad or bitter the person might feel, it is better to tell him the truth than give him false assurances. He might feel you actually a bad friend, but in the long run, he will certainly appreciate and treasure your words. However, when telling him these hard truths, our approach matters a lot. Begin by positioning yourself in the right environment. A quiet , private and cool place would do best. Begin by praising his positive qualities. Speak gently. Let honesty show in your demeanour. Explain to him the pros and cons of the particular issue. Speak in simple words to ensure he understands you. Wait for him to respond. And please don't force him to accept your views. Leave the final decision to him. - Mutual respect. As the saying goes, respect begets respect. Everyone, regardless of his status in life, deserve to be respected. This reflects in our choice of words, the tones of our voices when we speak, our gestures, attitudes, etc. Nobody wants to be friends with someone who doesn't respect him.
- Appreciate others. We all want to feel appreciated. Pay compliments too. Say thank you. You are beautiful. You are cute. I love your shirt. Your hair is wow! Etc. Such words tend to evoke inner pleasure within the person they are directed to.
- Remember things that are important to others.
These include their names, birthdays, anniversaries, and so on. Most of the time, when people tell us things, it is because those things are important to them and they want us to remember those things. In some cases, it might be necessary to keep a small diary on significant people in our lives. Calendar reminder also comes in handy here.
During my postgraduate days, my room mate had a diary in which was written the names of those family members she dared not displease. And during her wedding programs, she ensured she sent them invitation cards. When I asked her the reason for noting those people down, her response was: 'hmm, if they don't receive this card, that is serious trouble for me....and I know they won't even attend.' - Follow up. Don't wait for people to get in touch first. Ask about their welfare, how they are utilising information or other things you or others have supplied to them, any improvement in any condition they might have, etc
- Offer to be of assistance. If you know someone needs some sort of help, jump in and offer that help before they ask. Some people are shy, even scared of asking for help. A lot of people fear rejection and so are reluctant to ask for help. I know someone who would rather starve to death than ask for food/financial assistance. When we observe any needs, we should offer to be of help. If the offer is rejected, fine. If accepted, great! Probably, a lifetime bond just got formed.
- Respond quickly when something is required of you. This should be done as soon as possible. It is not nice leaving someone out there, someone who desperately needs our assistance, help or advice. It is even worse when we tell the person 'I will be right back. Wait for me'. And then the waiting game stretches as long as weeks or months.
And then the waiting period stretches into weeks or months *
And then, lastly.... - There will always be that time when we need to relate with someone we don't like. Someone we feel we hate.
Well, in this case, my opinion is that we put aside all our doubts, prejudices and misgivings, and make a genuine effort to know the 'real' person. It is every likely he knows you don't like him! So please make the greatest effort to be genuine. Try to appear and actually be open. Your words must not be too guarded. Instead of putting energy into your differences, focus on finding things you have in common.
Always be positive. Always be patient. Always smile. And always laugh.
Thanks a lot for your time.
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