Hello dear Steemers! Today I'd like to share with you a bit of my opinion in romantic relationships... I hope y'all enjoy reading and tell me what you think about the subject as well.
We, humans, need to feel connected to others, need to feel comprehended and that we are not alone in this world... since we are born until we die. When we are growing up, we find out that, actually, our parents were responsible for giving us these feelings of security and comprehension, until we start to feel attracted to other people and feel sexual desire about it.
But what we want from our partners? Why we seek for a partner? What is to love someone?
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I haven't had many relationships... of course when I was single I had lots of fun, but boyfriends, I've had three (only one at once, of course hahaha).
At the first relationship, I was very young (not that I'm old now) and it lasted for 1 year almost... When you are too immature, you cannot understand nor be much empathetic about the other's feelings, you just wanna have some fun and taste the "freedom" of choosing to be or not with someone.
With the second relationship, I started to realize that you have to be empathetic and make lots of sacrifices in order to maintain a relationship, specially because you have no obligation of that, but still, that's what you should. We had a lot of fun together, lots of fights, too much jealous, lots of break ups and make ups... then I realized something was wrong, because when you love someone you shouldn't break up, you shouldn't offend or hurt the other's feelings, you also shouldn't expect the other knows what you are thinking or what you want without the need of saying it... we, humans, have this problem, and communication based in honesty is the key... we've tried, but the lack of honesty - mine and his - screw 2 years of a nice relation.
At my third relationship (that I hope to be the last one), I met the most amazing person that I've ever known, and we felt connected almost instantly... He was the male older version of me. And the trust was so natural, that at the third day I gave him my house's key hahaha
I always thought that I would like to be with someone intelligent, honest, serious, fun (yes.. women can be contradictory), that enjoy to discuss about deep subjects in life and that make me feel secure and free, without being crazy jealous ... So I found him, and we are together for almost 4 years now.
There is no such thing as the perfect relationship, there are lots of mistakes and faults... we are humans and we all make mistakes. But you can try to be a better person every day.
What makes you want to be with someone? ADMIRATION.
What makes the relationship lasts? FORGIVENESS.
You only know that you really love when you let your pride aside and forgive... you only feel loved when you are forgiven. Not only once, but everyday! Everyday you have the chance of forgiving the other's faults and showing your love. That's how we do with our parents and they do with us as well. No matter what, or how... they will always forgive you. That's the unconditional love.
My definition of a healthy relationship is being happy 90% of the time, without arguing or fighting for being right or wrong. Of course there are bad times, but don't let them be bigger than the happy ones.
Set priorities in your life, so you can know what you are looking for in someone else and the most important, you need to know what you DON'T want in your life... so with that, will be much easier to know if you are going on the right direction without suffering. Don't waste your time being unhappy.
Be with someone that you admire and that admires you... that's also love.
Thank you 
These were my thoughts for today... and about you? What is love for you and what you want from a partner? Have you ever thought about that?
I'm curious about knowing from you!
Thank you very much for reading and much love for you guys!
Cheers from Brazil.
