Imagine: You have found your perfect love interest. You both are happy with each other and years pass by with the same person. Things are good except one little problem: he is with you all the times (well some of the time maybe) and you do your normal things with him but he seems to lose interest in your dressing, in your choices, or should we say he loses his interest in you after these many years. This sounds cruel and nobody likes to 'beg' for attention and love. But dealing with this reality can be the game changer. Here are our tested and tried tips that will keep him interested in you without you having to be needy.
- Do not go out of way to do something for him. Having said that we do not mean to stop caring about him but you need to stop 'pleasing' him and act your normal self. Evolution happens in relationships too so you must adapt yourself to the changes happening in your relationship. He will be certain that you will fulfill his desires no matter what. But this will keep him busy in other things. To regain his interest in you, start saying 'no' politely for things that you really don't want to do. He may act shocked at first but gradually he will start ro respect your perspective. Result? He will look for ways to develop your participation in that scenario (it can be regarding home, food, or even your bedroom matters). Take away? Be a little mysterious to keep him curious.
- Maintain the best of you. Remember it is not only to keep him interested in you. Basically it is about loving and taking care if yourself. Stay in shape, eat balanced meals, and exercise regularly. This will keep you healthy and fit (a healthy body is home to healthy mind). He will also be more interested in you (we all love to notice well-maintained individuals).
- Do not kill your inner child. Keep acting sily like you used to in the beginning months of your relationship. Stay enthusiastic about your plans just as you used to in the early years of youth. Do not be afraid of trying new food, outfits, or holiday destinations. Your interest in your dreams will force him to stay interested in you (if he is honestly committed to you). He may not tell you but he will be happier to see you happy and enthusiastic about your dreams and passions.
- Take interest in his problems as it shows genuine concern. However, the interest in his problems should be honest and from heart. He might need your help, suggestions, opinion, or even your shoulder to cry on. Be a good listener and understand him before making any decision if some conflict of interest arises.
There is no shortcut to lasting change in his behavior. Work on problem areas as well as keep your spirit alive to keep him interested in you.