My nym is a pain in the system to everyone but me (and possibly sibling dearest) apparently XD

_{also possibly children because they grew up with it}

I'm assuming you already hashed out why she wants to go back and why Italian alternnatives are non-options for her?

If it's any consolation at least you made it somewhere for a bit and that she's giving it another year. She might change her mind once she's established a network and found a spot you both love. I've vetoed all of J's attempts at skipping the country because while he feels that lifestyle and friendships are easy enough to uproot and re-establish none of the rest of us feel the same way.