Do you over-apologize?
Over-apologizing alludes to saying Please accept my apologies when you don't have to. This could be the point at which you haven't done anything wrong or you're assuming liability for another person's error or an issue that you didn't cause or control.
The following are a couple of instances of over-apologizing.
The waiter presents to you some unacceptable request and you say, "Please accept my apologies yet this isn't what I requested."
You approach the receptionists present at your doctor's office by saying, I'm sorry to trouble you. I have an inquiry.
While looking at the store, the clerk incidentally breaks your eggs and sends somebody to get one more container for you. You apologize to the customers behind you in line, I'm sorry it's taking such a long time.
Or maybe You are in a meeting and you say, i am really sorry. I did not hear you. Could you rehash what you recently said?
Why we over-apologize and why it's an issue
In every one of these circumstances, obviously you haven't done anything wrong and there's no compelling reason to apologize. Anyway, for what reason do as such a large number of us over-apologize? The following are some potential reasons.
1.Trying to please everyone.. ....
You need to be viewed as quite courteous. You're overly worried about what others think and don't have any desire to agitate or frustrate others.
2.You probably have Low confidence.
You do think so inadequately of yourself and that resulted to you thinking that you are not doing well , you begin to think you are being troublesome, you think you are creating issues, you think you are being nonsensical, you think you are asking too much..
3.You are experiencing perfectionism..
You have such agonizingly exclusive requirements for yourself that you can never satisfy them. Hence, you continually feel lacking and want to apologize for each small thing that you do incompletely.
4.You feel uncomfortable.
Some people apologise to others not because they feel it is right thing they should do at that moment but they apologise because they feel
Insecure or uncomfortable , such people tend to apologize just to make themselves feel better..
5..Taking the responsibilities for the mistakes of other people.
When a person tends to often feel responsible for the mistakes made by other people then such person will apologise too much even when the apology is not necessary.., their apologies even encourage the people to keep making mistakes because the person apologising made them feel they did not do anything wrong..
Let me give an example ,in a relationship your partner makes alot of mistakes and instead of the partner apologising to you, you were the one who is apologising to them for their own mistake , if the partner is not matured with the way they reason then they might start getting encouraged to keep displaying wrong behaviours because they believe you will still apologise to them for their own mistakes..
It is good to apologise when you offend others or when you hurt them or behaved badly towards them , but I see no reason why you should apologise to someone when you did nothing wrong, or even if you want to apologise you should always know when to say yes to the decisions to make an apology and when to say no to decisions to make an apology.
