Hello friends of this great community; You have to understand that your past is completely out of your control, no matter how much you reflect on how things could have turned out or how you could have acted differently, it has already happened and you cannot change it, the only thing you can control is how you handle the situation. now onwards. The true power to change, to reinterpret what happened and free yourself to find more peace of mind, is in the present, if you sincerely commit to freeing yourself and moving forward you will see significant changes in your life, instead of constantly regretting what happened it is time to change the script, start assuming the role of protagonist in your life and not that of a secondary character.

You can apply this understanding to all areas you want including overcoming a breakup, holding on to memories and thinking that you will not find someone better is simply wasting time, the human brain has a tendency to idealize and remember only happy moments, even if the relationship had serious problems. So it is crucial to understand how your brain works, to be able to live fully, regarding the future, continually worrying about what may happen is as harmful as living anchored in the past, just as the past is out of your control, you can plan, You can set goals, but you can't guarantee results, so recognizing that you don't have full control over what's to come frees you.

It is important to have direction and goals, but it is also important to be flexible and able to adapt to circumstances. Understanding this helps you live with less anxiety and with much more peace of mind. It is an illusion to believe that I have complete control over how everything will develop. the events in life. When we are children, for example, we have 1000 doubts, 1000 dreams, and we also want to do many things; One day I dreamed of being a psychologist, another day of being an astronaut, when I moved to another country I wanted to dedicate myself to tourism.

I didn't know that everything can be studied, everything can be improved through training, study and practice, well you become better with practice, in any activity, in any area of your life, in any skill. And knowing deep down what I wanted, what was best for me, knowing what was going to make me happiest helps a lot; But the environment, parents, friends, or others may hold you back and fill you with limiting thoughts, inability and impossibility (fears), and that fear must be converted into a motivation to do what the heart feels.

And that is why Let go of control and be open to all possibilities, Life, God, the universe, whatever you think is bigger always has plans, much broader than our minds can conceive at this moment, this gives me great Peace. I can only control the present, focus on doing my best here and now is what really matters, what will happen in 5 or 10 years is out of my control and that's okay, I appreciate that life gives me opportunities to grow and expand what I consider my maximum potential, life can always exceed our expectations and we should all see it that way in my opinion.