Hello friends of this wonderful community; For me, buying expensive things has always caused me a lot of discomfort, a lot of anxiety, I don't have a good time, I don't have a good time spending, I have more money than before, more opportunities, but my mind and my beliefs are still trapped in that time of childhood. Today I am going to tell you something that I wish someone had told me years ago, something that could have changed my life before, the beliefs we have about money are extremely powerful and if we do not learn to control our emotions and develop emotional intelligence, manage our relationship with Money can become a constant battle. Our emotions affect our financial decisions and how the limiting beliefs we carry since childhood may be holding us back in all aspects of life; Not only economically, I want you to understand this, because for a long time, the beliefs that I myself carried in relation to money were holding me back in all aspects of life, without even realizing it.

We are in a critical moment: promotions, offers, discounts, social networks, everything is constantly bombarding you with the idea that you need more and more things, it is too easy to get carried away by impulsive purchases nowadays that then in the end make us They generate guilt, stress and financial anxiety, “what you have been thinking about money all your life may be the same root of your financial problems.” At first I did not know what he meant by this, I did not understand this concept very well, because I did not know what “limiting beliefs” were, I want to share with you how to know what those beliefs are, so for that I am going to break down the ideas of two key books that helped me a lot in this. The first of them is “the secrets of the millionaire mind” and the second and most recent was “psychology of money”; These books have such interesting ideas and thanks to those books I put aside the fear of “what people will say”, until then it was very difficult for me to expose myself, but that book gave me the confidence to do it and without a doubt marked the beginning of something very beautiful in me. life. I am sure that it can also be a turning point for you, because if you feel that money is stressing you out or that your emotions are taking over you instead of you taking control of them or that you cannot move forward towards your financial goals, this post can give you the tools you need to start changing everything.

A negative point of these books, because there always is one, is that they always oversimplify financial success, implying that just changing your mentality is enough to achieve prosperity, but we know that it is not that easy, right, external factors such as job opportunities, economic conditions, the social environment of the country you are in also influence, so not everything is always under our control, however, today I want to focus on what we can control, which are our beliefs about money and way we manage it because it is possible.

I lived in my grandparents' house until I was 15, because my parents couldn't rent or buy a house and that made me very uncomfortable and insecure when my friends asked me, I tried to avoid the topic or even didn't invite me friends. home so as not to be embarrassed by saying that “it's my grandparents' house,” because it wasn't normal in my circle of friends. So you see how something so minimal can be so important in the mentality of a child. If you reflect a little, you have probably also gone through things like that, which have marked the way you act now as an adult in relation to money. I know. It is important to work on our beliefs and thoughts because these directly influence how we see and manage money, your ideas about prosperity, financial success or even poverty greatly impact your decisions. So in the end our emotions and beliefs have a gigantic weight in our financial life, to begin I want us to talk about what financial psychology is, it is necessary to understand this concept, since it helps us realize that our decisions about money are not Only rational ones, on the contrary, are influenced by our emotions, by our life experiences, by the way we were taught to see money from a young age, so seeing it this way, the way we handle money is unique for each person. So with this there is a set of beliefs, ideas and perceptions that we have about money and this is what the author calls “money model”, it is like a program that influences our relationship with money, an everyday example is Observe how there are people who receive their salary and spend everything immediately, while others are extremely careful, save everything, save everything and prefer to invest. This comes from life stories and the values that each one has regarding money.

I grew up in a family in which money was very limited, I heard worries talking about money and from a very young age I had that worry too and I grew up wanting many things that I couldn't have, they weren't essential things, they were luxuries, they were things that had My friends also remember that money was not abundant, but there was enough, even so, that led me to develop a mentality focused on wanting security and wanting stability. As I mentioned before, the fact that my parents did not have their own house and that I was embarrassed to invite my friends because of that, made my only dream become to buy a house and invite all my friends and family home without problems. We all have certain beliefs deep down, even if you start earning more money, it is something that is always there, but the curious thing is that, although my financial reality has changed, now I have more money than before, more opportunities, but my mind and my beliefs are still trapped in that time of childhood, this is just an example so you can see how our beliefs influence our relationship with money.