Hello friends of this community; be an emotionally strong person, have you ever thought about it, I want to start by talking a little about why we often think that an emotionally strong person is one who does not allow themselves to be affected by anything, we think that strong people are those who are never wrong, who Nothing affects them, they are tough people, people who always seem to be fine, who never show their weakness, however this is not always the case.

There are people who seem to be very strong, maybe in your family there is someone like that or maybe you are that person who is always apparently fine, who helps everyone, who you never see cry, even if they are going through difficult moments, that person He remains firm because he feels that he has to be the support of others, people who have told me “I have to be the support of my family”, I have seen young adults say “I am the pillar of my family, I have to be strong to others”, and that is worrying from an emotional point of view because it is a very heavy burden to always have to be The Strong One, to be the point of support for others. It is a myth to think that being emotionally strong means not feeling emotions or not being affected by them, it has nothing to do with not crying or being more rational, none of that, being emotionally strong is not about not experiencing intense emotions, in fact , emotional strength is related to the ability to be vulnerable with our emotions, to connect with them, but knowing what to do with them.

Many people think that showing emotions is a sign of weakness, and there is a difference between an emotionally strong person and a person that we could consider more fragile, emotionally vulnerable. Being more vulnerable is a person who does not know how to deal with their own emotions, even in situations of everyday life, they fall apart, they are so affected by situations that they collapse, for example, a conflict may happen at work, you receive criticism from your boss or you fight with your parents or fight with your partner and that destroys you, you feel bad, you cry and you can't control resolve the situation. This can show a vulnerability, a certain weakness because it is not functional or healthy, the person in this case cannot resolve situations, the problem is not that they feel the emotions, but that when they feel them they do not know what to do with them.

On the other hand, a person who is emotionally strong will also feel everything that any person would feel, fear, anger, insecurity, anxiety, the difference is that they can recognize those emotions, balance how they react to them and find a way to resolve them. problems that arise, even though you may be feeling all that.

Another thing that is not healthy is repressing our emotions and acting as if nothing is happening, as if nothing is affecting our peace, keeping them for too long, you will realize that eventually they will make you explode, of course, it is not healthy to be excessively the opposite either, It does not mean being expressive and not being able to control what you feel, what we are looking for here is a balance.

And to achieve that balance we must balance reason and emotion, an emotionally strong person is someone who can connect both with their emotions, but can also rationalize them, that is, we recognize what we feel and seek to understand what we think, what led us to feel. in that way, because we understand that the way we think influences how we feel. There are ways of thinking that make us even feel worse than we already feel, so we need to ponder and question those thoughts. If those thoughts are the best we could have in that situation, then it is important to question the validity of those thoughts, because many times We are thinking in a perhaps unbalanced or extreme way. If we do not question ourselves, if we do not seek to rationalize what we feel and only live in emotion, that will not be healthy either, so it is essential that we seek to balance reason and emotion.