This weeks #minimalist community weekly prompt question #2
Found me right in the mix of it. Would I say I am an aspiring minimalist? Well no, I am a partial minimalist, sometimes I live a minimalist life and sometimes I find myself wanting to be or behaving a tad bit extravagant.
This weeks question like I said met me in the midst of my struggle. For the last six months I have been saying to myself and my partner I need a wardrobe change. I need new clothes, and a total cloths change. I need new set of everything, from tops, shirts, gowns, shoes etc. most of the cloths I own are now really smaller in size or just not my style anymore. Lately I find myself leaning toward freer clothing, away with all the tight tops and body hugging gowns, I only just want to wear things that allow for free movement and air.
Well this new dress taste has to be met with new cloths as most, if not all my cloths are a size 8/10 which was the size I got married with, but now I am a size 12 and all the cloths look useless to me. I legit have cloths I haven’t worn for over a year now and it’s just there in my closet occupying space.
I have given away a some on few occasions to a group of charity homes my partner donates to but it still hasn’t reduced the giant pile I need to find a way to get rid of. My partner on the other hand gave me an ultimatum, he asked me to rid my closet of all the unwanted clothings I own before he would attend to my plea for a new set of cloths. He gave me this ultimatum since six months ago and I have been having a hard time actually getting rid of the cloths.
Each day I tell myself today you would do it and I end up standing in front of my closet, staring at the clothes for a long time and then shutting it and walking away.
I have a full closet with both hanged and folded cloths and a full box of cloths I need to attend to.
Now my problem isn’t only about how hectic it would be for me to do the work, but the major problem is letting go of these cloths, I pick one up and think to myself
but you don’t wear this now?
When last did you wear it?
And then another thought would cross my mind Saying
but it’s still a good fine dress o
What if you reduce weight and decide to rock this dress? Just leave it first
And that’s how I end up not letting go of anything.
On this faithful night, my partner reminded me that up till that moment I had not rid my closet of all unused and unwanted clothes and I took that as a que to get up and get to work.
Ohhh it was hard, I really didn’t want to let go of somethings. I even sized a few to see the fit and if I still wanted it. I even found cloths I did not remember I had, cloths I haven’t touched for over a year. I was wowed at how much a piece of cloth can be easily forgotten when out of sight.
It took me three hours to sought out the cloths that were still very much new and useful, the ones I had to throwaway and the ones I could still keep for probably another one year and might still end up not wearing them(it’s a start at least)
At the end of the day I got three full waste bin bags of cloths. Unfortunately I do not have a younger sibling, maybe if I did I would have someone constantly taking the cloths off my hands like I take my elder sisters own when she was around. As that thought crossed my mind I remember my younger sister-in-law. She just got admission into the university and as a young girl most of these cloths would definitely be more useful to her than it is to me just lying in my box and closet.
I asked my partner if It was okay to give his baby sister some of the clothes and he didn’t see any problem with the suggestion so I sent her a message asking if she need or wanted some of the cloths, and she was excited for it. Well that gave me a new sense of relief . At least I know she would have quality good clothes to rock as a university babe. It even made me more willing to let go of some other things I had kept that I knew deep down in my heart I wouldn’t wear but was finding it hard to let go, at least now it would go to someone close to me who would cherish it, I thought to myself
Well, I ended up having two full bags just for her, I threw in a few hairs and shoes too and also one bag to go to the charity home we usually donate to. Now my closet looks free, and more meaning-full. I can now buy new outfits knowing I not only have space for them but they would be exactly what I need and I would wear them.
Do you struggle to let go of your personal items?
Do let me know in the comments below.
