Use Absence to Increase Respect
I remember when I just graduated from collage, I decided to go to work in Abroad,
so this was the first time I have ever I traveled to another country and started
living alone.
after around a year, I came back for the first time to visit my family and
what happened is that, my family started taking me in a more serious way,
the way they dealt with me completely changed,
especially my parents, because this "absence created this respect".
The reason why your friends or family members do not respect you is because
you are just spending too much time with them, yes its as simple as that,
i know it sounds ridiculous but when something is rare, people really
appreciate it but when there is too much of something, people stop seeing its value,
lets take an example,
we all have some people that we really admire, for some it might be a singer,
a president, a football player, a basketball player. we have great respect to this people,
and we would be super excited to see them ,
Now image with me what would happen if they start living just beside you and become
your friend, you no longer going to be super excited to meet them.
Once someone die, everything about you will seem different. they will be surrounded
by an instant aura of respect. People will remember their criticisms of him,
their arguments with him, and will be filled with regret and guilt.
their missing a presence that will never return.
So, this doesn't mean you should completely stop socialising with people,
don’t get me wrong, but at the same time stop spending all your day with your friends
if you want them to respect you, get busy with other things, if you are complaining
why your parents don’t take you serious, stop spending 24 hours at home being fed by
your mom.
"Words might be the most powerful tool to make people to respect you but too much of
it can lead to opposite effect".
Lets take an example of Donald trump “Before his entrance into politics, the name of
Trump evoked success, luxury and respect. His business accomplishments showed him as
a man of great success.
Since most people did not really know much about him, they had a high perception about
him.
The moment he started appearing more and more
in TV, and spoke his mind, all that respect
vanished.
He bragged and blustered.
He insulted and slandered people, as if he felt threatened and insecure.
Suddenly he was not at all what the people had imagined. this contradiction between
this high perception that people had about him and the reality,
disappointed a lot of people who use to see him as a role model and as a sign of success
and someone they want to be like.
The more trump talked, the less powerful he appeared a person who cannot control his
words shows that he cannot control himself, and is unworthy of respect.”
Of course he won the election therefore he will be respected, but in our daily life,
we don’t have power over people, of course someone us might have some positions that
will force people to respect us for the the majority of us,
we need to be careful with our words, I am not saying you have to be completely quite, but
you have to know your limits,
too much of talking will actually make your words less valuable, and people will take them
less serious.
So if you want people to value every word
you are going to say and get respect you,
Act like a King to be treated like a king
Have you ever watched gold digger videos, it became a trend to make a video on that,
a guy comes with an old dirty car wearing a t-shirt and shorts and trying to pick up
girls and he gets rejected and the second time he comes with this luxury car dressed
like a gentleman and she gives her number, Of course that’s whats going to happen,
first time you are giving a perception that you are just another fool playing around and
the second you are giving a perception that you are successful and resepctful person.
And any girl want to be with a guy who is successful, because, money and luxury represents
success, remember Donald Trump?
Lets take the opposite scenario, I am not trying to offend anyone, but lets say for
the sake of example, a fat less unattractive poor girl tries to pick up a handsome young
guy, what would be his reaction, compare that to, if a super attractive girl picks up a
guy on a Ferrari, what would be his reaction, its not different than the reaction of the
girls in all these gold diggers videos.
Don’t expect to act like a simple normal person and be treated like a king,
if you want to be respected, you got to act like a respectful person, your dress, your actions,
your attitude, your character, your choice of words, all that gives a perception to people
of who you are.
A lot of people might think that I am suggestion you to be arrogant, that’s not the point.
All what I am saying is that, dress well, work on a projects that you are passionate
about, try to achieve something in life, make people look at you as a successful person.
Always be clean, talk with dignity and respect.
Be punctual and honest and you will see how people are going to start respecting more
and more.
If you agree or disagree with these tips,
let me know in the comments below, Thank you.
