I am a man of fifty plus, married and I have two little girls. I believe that jealousy is part of every relationship, be it marriage, romance or any other form of relationship. It is normal to a certain extent. Nevertheless there is a difference between being jealous and being controlling. I am a jealous type of person but only for my dear wife. I don't feel jealous about who is doing better than me or whatever they are doing. I only feel sad if men tries to talk with my wife. How do I handle this? Actually the key to avoid any negative jealousy is trust. I know my wife, I know that my wife would never do that and trust helps me not to feel insecure. But I think that a woman, a wife knows her husband and she knows what her husband likes and what her husband dislikes. I believe that I am the beloved man, in my wife’s life and my wife loves me the most among all men so jealousy is not an abnormal behavior.
Actually, I do not consider jealousy and insecurity to be the same. Jealousy is a form of insecurity that is related to the fear of losing somebody who is dear to you. Insecurity is a separate feeling that is connected with some specific fears, such as a fear of being insufficient in some respect or a fear of being hated.
In order to deal with jealousy, it is necessary to feel trust in your partner and not to try to be like everyone else. You will not feel jealous if you do not look at your partner from the point of view of other people. Trust is a key element in the relationship between two people. As we know that without trust, there is nothing. If you are really in love with a person, you will not seek to possess them, you will not look at them from the point of view of other people and you will not try to change them.
Nevertheless jealousy is an important sense. Jealousy is required because it makes me feel I truly care about my wife. So a bit of healthy jealousy is okay. Everything needs to be in order. But I should not use jealousy in a way which could cause big problems.
This is my entry to a contest of indiaunited, if you wanna participate feel free to join, here is the link.
Credits:
The thumbnail picture is generated by chatgpt.
My Socials
Instagram