Disappointment is part of human activities, and that's why, as humans, s, we disappoint one another from time to time. Sometimes, we are shocked when we get disappointed by our loved ones or those we hold in high esteem. Disappointments are mostly unexpected; we don't always see them coming. Recently, I've not had issues with anyone that would make me feel disappointed, but a lot does happen to those around me, and the story of disappointments does hit differently.
Last week, my best friend and her boyfriend had some misunderstandings that led to a big fight, and while the guy was telling his side of the story, we all chastised my friend for behaving so badly and rebuked her, siding with the guy and helping them to settle the quarrel. Just when I thought everything was fine and back to the way it used to be, some evidence showed up yesterday which shows this guy has been cheating all that while, whereas he told me he hasn't been in any relationship in the space of four years which he has been with my friend. I respected him so much and believed every one of his words because he was too calm and innocent to be a cheat, but shockingly, I was disappointed when all the evidence pointed at him as being unfaithful.
His second girlfriend dared to call my friend yesterday and started saying different things. Unfortunately, another number called my friend, confirming that this guy and the second girl had been dating for a while now without my friend knowing about their relationship. I was so surprised yesterday when I began to hear the different kinds of atrocities this guy had committed with evidence backing up every action. I remember when he and my best friend had a misunderstanding; I was the one he called venting out his anger, and all I could do then was apologize to him on my friend's behalf, but after seeing and hearing all he did, I was dumbfounded and annoyed.
I called him for clarity, and just as expected, he tried to deny all allegations until I showed him the evidence he couldn't deny. Then he became speechless and wanted to start apologizing. I couldn't bring myself to believe everything I heard because he looked just too calm and innocent, but then I came to believe the phrase, "Never judge a book by its cover," and just like that, the relationship of four years was washed down the drain. This is the relationship we presume is perfect and heading to the altar. Well, that's what makes us human after all, we are meant to disappoint one another at some point in our lives.
I'm not a saint either; I have, one way or another, disappointed people close to me, which got to them badly, and I feel remorseful about it. An example was a friend's wedding, which I was invited to but failed to show up. I felt bad about it because it got her so angry but then I had no justification than to apologise. She got married last year in October and before her wedding, she had told me since April, I promised to show up but on that particular day, I couldn't make it to the wedding not because I was busy but because of the anti-social part of me overwhelmed the normal me that should have planned towards the event. I was home all through the day just because I didn't feel like going out that particular day; it sounds weird, right? I couldn't force myself to step out of my home. She felt so disappointed that someone like me, whom she loved and cared about, would miss her big day; nevertheless, I'm a human, after all. I apologized to her and moved on. Disappointment is real and inevitable; just live through it, heal up, and move on to living a fulfilled life.
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