Honestly, being a hard and cold guy has always been my kind of thing, but the truth is that i am not much of a hard guy, on the contrary i am a very soft guy with a touch of craziness. If you ask those who know me beyond my strong and cold exterior, they'd tell you how soft i am. In a country like mine, such exterior is needed to survive daily. Predators are everywhere looking for who to prey on, and if you are caught off guard, you will be left victimized big time, which is why the hard and cold exterior is needed to fend off predators and opportunists...
Letting go hasn’t always been an easy task for me, especially when it comes to friends and loved ones. It is always very hard for me to let go of people, especially if it had to be on bad terms and i have to keep seeing them daily. It would have been a different story entirely if it’s just a week encounter or thereabout, letting go of a relationship built within that short period of time will be quite easy to let go of, unlike a relationship that has been built for years, do you think such bond can be completely broken over night, oh no it can’t. It is going to take quite sometime…
Letting of an habit or behavior is easier than letting of people, especially a long time relationship. I envy those who find letting go of people an easy task, just in a flash they have cut the person off and in no time they’ve moved on, just like that. I know quite a number of people who are very good at letting go. Letting go on a good term is quit easy for me, at-least there won’t be enmity or bad blood, but on a bad term, it means something huge has happened in between that lead to that particular result…
Letting go of friends and acquaintances is said to be difficult, but guess what, letting go of families is more difficult than you think. I think this is the even the hardest part of letting go. Imagine having to let go one’s nuclear family because of one reason or the other, after spending all your life with them. Do you think letting go of such bond and relationship will be easy, oh no. Which is why i still stand my ground on it being the hardest aspect of letting go…
Letting go means cutting off completely. Compared to cutting off friends and acquaintances, cutting off one's immediate family is a very hard decision. Like having nothing to do with them again will be close to impossible. I have only seen such a thing happen in movies and not in the real world. I can’t even imagine how crazy and mentally draining it would be for me…
I can still make do with the extended family, but with my immediate family, I don’t think that’s something i can get done easily. It is going to take me forever to do that, even if it’s for my personal growth…
Cutting off or letting go of my immediate family will be hard, the best thing I would do if a situation like this arises is to take some time off from them. Like going away for months but not completely cutting them off. I will still call to check up on them from time to time and be doing my duties as a son, but then, everything will be done from afar until i am fully healed and ready to let go of the past…
In summary, I can’t leave my family behind, even if they cause me pain unintentionally. I would neither leave them behind nor get stuck with them for any reason. I would rather give them space, i mean give them distance, which consists of little to no access to me at all. Everything will be done from a distance and nothing else…
In conclusion, I just hope and pray i never encounter a situation that will ever lead me to making such a big decision of having to let of go of family. It’s not a beautiful experience at all, especially when it’s ones immediate family we are talking about…
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