Subservience rather than dominance is now the world's new definition of sexual prowess.
As feminism sweeps the world, a sustained sexual exertion and commensurate skill to the libidinal needs of women is the new metric gauge for true masculinity.
Meaning, a man is no longer a man if his duration on a woman lasts only a few minutes!
With the rising state of sexual consciousness in women as the new reference standard for all sexual indulgences, staying hard for as long as she desires is not only the new deal, but also the baseline by which masculinity is defined.
But to meet or satisfy this heightened sexual cravings or match this new libidinal definition of sexual gratification, mastery in sexual skills is now a course many pursue through sexploitation.
But is this the biblical view or position? What is God's intent for sex and how should couples equalize their sexual expertise?
If excessive intake of drugs, or a course on blue films, or sexual apprenticeships with different ladies is the required pedigree to match the libidinal needs of any woman, then it's not normal.
What is normal? Normal is any urge, experience, or desire that conforms with God's Word.
God's idea for sex is normal; the devil's idea is junky - extreme, abnormal, addiction!
Normal means to score awesome points in bed with your spouse through mutual discoveries that comes from mutual knowledge of each other.
Ladies are in different shades, likewise guys; hence, fact-check the background of a potential spouse before consenting to marriage with them.
Some have overstretched their bodies through wrong uses and accustomed it to unusual rigorous extremes.
So even though they are believers, conforming their body as the right match for yours may seem an uphill task.
So please ask questions before accepting to marry a guy or a lady. I'm sure you don't want your spouse to announce publicly that he or she is leaving you because you're a 40 seconds man or lady.
A guy or lady with wild and reckless sexual undertakings would always take it to the extreme simply because multiples of the erotic spots in them have been experientially ruptured.
So instead of being bemused by what your spouse wants or describes as sexual ecstasy, do your findings before marriage by asking questions.
God's plan is for a husband and wife in marriage to grow at the same pace in their knowledge and discovery of the exciting spots in them.
God wants our mutual discovery to be as unique as our purest expression of faith.
So if God says, "Save sex till marriage," but the world says, "Do not buy a pair of shoes without first trying them on," whose report would you believe?
But the reason you don't need to try out on sex before marriage is because God didn't design sex like a pair of socks or face cap or all such items that have the ‘one size fits all’ tag.
You don't need any knowledge from blue films to be able to score awesome points in bed. Don't let the devil to mislead you.
As a child of God, avoid people who make you feel inadequate in yourself.
Since it's a different stroke for different people, growing in it with your spouse is the right palliative for your marriage before it starts.
Sex is like fellowship! Knowledge is the engine room for both.
As we spend time daily with people, we get to know them better.
Be guided by the truth of God's Word.
