I know a lot of events ,occurrence that have happen at one point or the other in our life that still bring bad memories. Basically felling sad, disappointed about what has been done or you failed to do therefore in most cases blaming ourself for the outcome. Each an every one of us have this moments in our life it could be a relationship that you failed to make work or one you failed to take that bold step you knew you should have, or it could be that job opportunity you took for granted but you let slip away, or it could be that trip you never made or that stunt you pulled that created you most embarrassing moment, or not staying in touch with you childhood friends, not standing up to bullies in you life. Fun fact you not alone in the regret business, Mikhail Kalashnikov regretted ever inventing 4th he Ak-47 rifle as he felt as many lives that it has taking points back to him the creator, Ethan Zuckerman also regretted creating pop ads as it as become the most hated form of advertising although he had intentions good intention for creating but I guess I was not well reviewed by consumers of which made him to apologize to the general public.
We all make mistakes, have regrets as a matter of fact sad past experience has happened to the best of us. So it not really bad to have regrets but it's not good to dwell on them. To ponder on them over and over as if we could turn back the hands of time and make things right or correct what has happened. But the sad truth is that we have no power over what has happened in the past but we have the ability to shape our now an future. Dwelling on our regrets just have way of making us look back rather than forward, makes us stagnant rather than move ahead, makes of have that shame feeling over and over and time that memory pops up in our head.
Living a life of no regrets does not make you nonchalant or carefree but it a form of looking less into the past and looking more to your future thereby making you stay focus. This are some tips to help you stay focus
1. Live in the present
Living in the past is like living in a past fantasy, an event that has happened and keeps replaying in your head with the sole aim of making you feel bad. Am also a lot of our regrets was created as a result of the fear of tommorow thereby making mistakes. Why not just live in the now, give your family that quality time when they are alive, buy that car when you still have the money to.
2. Don't compare yourself with others
It might seem that your friends or your mates are doing better than you now of which might be true. It not wise to compare yourself with them doing that would only bring memories of where you have failed in time pass. Careless about there achievement and say focus and if you must care it should be an encouragement to you not the other way round.
3. Always do what makes you happy
I can remember sometime I spent some cash on an outing with some friends that gave a big dent on my bank account. The truth is that even though I had to work extra hard to replace the money I was still happy I went on the trip. Always do what you love. That thing that brings you joy and you would live a life that anytime you look back you would only have smiles rather than regrets.
It possible to live a life of no regrets. You past is gone so forget it your future is yet to come so dream it and your present is now so live it with no regrets. They are not regrets just take them as lessons learned. Happy easter stay blessed.
