I'm not the the kind of person that would on a regular basis use the "F" word but I just couldn't find a better word to use for this little advice and it's because of how seriously I take it based off of my own life experience.
It's one of the hardest lessons I've learned in life but it has also been one that has brought much freedom to me.
It's very simple and I bet you've heard it before,
Stop giving a "fuck"
Everyone has an opinion, and for a couple months now that I've been more active on social media, I've noticed regardless of how good your opinion is, somebody out there thinks you're wrong. Literally, even if you spit out facts, they'll have something to say that suggests you're wrong.
Most people around you actively or passively want to tell you who to be, what to do with your life, how to dress, infact they have something to say about your accent. Even when you improve your personality positively, those that were comfortable with the old you will oppose it in a way. They want to control how you should act, some go to the extent of telling you how to feel.
Constructive criticism should always be embraced and should result into good change but not everyone criticizing you wants you to be better.
So now, if you're going to let every single thing get into your head, you will never know peace, ever.
The truth became clear to me a few years ago, nothing controls you if nothing owns your mind. The battlefield has and will always be in your own mind.
Just think about it for a second, most of the times, we are not even living for ourselves. We are living for approval, for likes, for applause, for people we honestly do not even like. When you find favor in the sight of men it's good because they'll give you a whole lot of goodies.
If a powerful person likes you and becomes generous towards you, well your life really did come with fun bags and money bags but what's your guarantee that you'll get the approval of the person whose approval you're chasing, and remember even after you go as low as hell to get that approval, you'll have to stay in hell to keep that approval.
We basically end up giving all our power away by caring too much about what others think of us.
The worst is when someone knows your happiness depends on their opinion, you inevitably become their slave. Your mind is in their hands and you'll never be free.
Hold your horses though, I do not mean become cold or cruel to everyone around you. The main point is to choose what truly matters to you and let go of all the noise they're shoving into your ears.
Sit on your couch or on the bed, and analyze your options, if something does not bring growth, peace, or love, why give it space in your head?
Why hand over your mind to people who do not pay your bills, live your life or walk your path? Even to those that help you the most, find ways of being grateful to them and sacrifice for them in gratitude but, letting them control your whole life should be out of the books. Making your own stand is very important, it'll even make those you depend on respect you more.
The true strength a person has does not come from their ability to control the world, it comes from their ability to control themselves.
I have seen old friends of mine fall apart because of gossips, social media comments and even strangers’ opinions. They looked down on themselves to a point where even when I give them a compliment they can't take it. They have officially been broken by the words of others.
But if those words did not own their mind, they could not have been broken, that's why I say it's a mind game. Stand tall regardless of the situation, good or bad. Let your own peace be a priority to you.
Stop giving a fuck. Once you're able to accomplish that, nothing will control you again.
Go out there guys, and win.
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