How long can you stay angry at the people around you. Even the distant ones. A wise man once said, forgiveness frees the one who forgave not the one who was forgiven because the one forgiven will need to carry the guilt of his actions forever.
Forgiveness is an act of self love, and it takes the burden off of your shoulders. You can't expect to waste your time and energy being angry at something or someone forever. Life's too short and you need all that energy channeled in the right direction and anger is the wrong direction.
The only thing holding grudges is best at doing is keeping you tied to people who already left your life. It's actually a way of you punishing you.
When someone shows you their true colors, that is to say, they do something really dirty or bad to you that hurts you, the best thing to do is to accept it and move on. You moving on will bring peace or take a big chunk of the hate away.
I for one used to replay situations in my head, wondering what I could have said in that heated argument to win but winning arguments is irrelevant, unless you're in court or there's profits involved. Silence says more than any argument you can pull off.
Also know that creating distance can protect your mind better than revenge ever could. Letting go of the hurt and bitterness doesn't just mean you've forgiven everything, it also means you've decided to choose peace over violence and that's a virtue that can keep you away from trouble.
Some people might think you ignoring them means you're bitter, but really, it means they no longer matter to your story. If they decide to keep the grudge that's their problem and not yours.
Don't let anyone be relevant in a space they no longer respect so move on without thinking about the past which led to what started the grudge in the first place.
Don't keep explaining yourself to people who only listen to reply. Most arguments are unnecessary. Choose profitable arguments and the rest, just know your life's to precious to waste it on a beef. Stop trying to make others understand your side of the story unless you're in court and you need to defend yourself to keep out of jail.
Don’t wish bad on anyone just because they hurt you, the worst is to wish them away from your focus and actually make an effort to keep away from them.
Remember that the world is big, in as much as they say it's a small world, life in itself isn't small, so your heart and mind has better places to go and connect and grow.
Not everyone deserves a seat at the same table forever, if they have no regard for you then they shouldn't be close. Your respect for yourself will tell you to create boundaries and that's true self love.
