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Just try and ask any random person this question **WHO IS A WOMAN?**** and you will get several different answers on who a woman is.
Some will say she is a helpmate while others will tell you that she is a mother but to me, a woman is EVERYTHING!!! She is a mother, Role Model, A Friend, comforter, adviser, leader, A woman who is the Last iota of reasoning whose knowledge and Intelligence can pull a drowning soul from the very Edge of despair thanks to her wisdom and natural ability to empathize. she's a giver of life with a nurturing soul that cuddles her young and is ready to lay down her life for her own.
A unique creator blessed with beauty and wisdom that nature destined to be placed on a pedestal of Honor but today she's a shadow of that glory.
As a child, I grew up in a community where the words "women's rights" were foreign to me. All I saw were women who lived their entire lives for their families without any desire to pursue separate life goals for themselves.
In a society where female education was none existent, you needed to know to survive as a woman was learning to cook and know how to manage a home because it was a general belief that it was a waste of money educating a girl child. After all, her final destination was going to be managing her home as a wife.
These women go through so much behind closed doors from verbal to physical and emotional abuse but they never complain, they never seek help, and never even attempt to find a resolution to these issues in their marriages because it is normal.
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And unconsciously even I got behind this school of thought that in a relationship as a woman it is my responsibility to make my relationship work by enduring in private but wearing a big smile in public.
"If a man doesn't hit you then he doesn't truly love you" that was the words of a lady when I asked at one time why she remained in what was by today's standard a toxic relationship.
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And this was a sentiment that set the tone for even my previous relationship which wasn't only unhealthy but painful but back then I believed as a woman I am supposed to endure which was the only way a relationship will work.
Luckily as the years went by I started to realize that I deserve better and that it wasn't just my duty alone as a woman to make a relationship and this was the first step to breaking free.
Every society has certain norms its people live by but when those norms are in direct conflict with our well being then we have the right to refuse to be conformed within those set norms.
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"Self-love is not selfish because when you love yourself truly and wholly only then are you able to purely love someone else" so my advice is to NEVER settle for less.
Today I can proudly say I am one of those who walked away because I deserve the best and if I can do it so can you.
Thank you for taking the time to view my post 馃槉 much love.
