For some people, the first time they fell in love was when they were no more than kids or most teenagers and they did not know much about how love worked at the time. So, tell us about all your first love and how they went. Did it last? Did it progress into a relationship? Tell us, we would love to know!
I had a wonderful and blissful first love story but everything went down after some years. Well, I wasn't hurt and in fact, I was happy it went down because I couldn't continue with such love which I would tag "Selfish love". Yes, it was a selfish one and keep reading because you will understand the word.
I was a girl who was afraid to have a boyfriend because of my upbringing by our parents. They are these hostile and strict type that would always warn us never to move close to any guy and they even instilled fear in us that once a guy touches us, we would be pregnant and that is the end of our Education.
I for a person, I love to go to school. I want to be a banker just as we would echo when our teacher asks us what we would like to be in future?
I was introverted because of this treatment from my parents and because of this, I was afraid and shy to face a guy in our area. I never had any boyfriend right from secondary school but I envied many students who would talk about their first kiss and how they started dating. I wanted to kiss too but I didn't have a boyfriend.
I was afraid of my parents and I had to remain a single girl from that time.
My first relationship started when I graduated from secondary school in the year 2010. I was a stubborn and almost a tout girl then but I don't know what this guy saw in me and decided to be in a relationship.
Let me make the meet up short.....
He came to buy bread from us when my mom had gone out to buy goods. I attended to him and for some minutes, he stood staring at me and didn't go. I didn't realize he was standing until I raised my head and was surprised. He asked for my name and asked if I would still be around and if he would come back soon.
Yes, he came as he has promised and since I knew mom wouldn't be arriving until later in the evening and it was still in the morning, I had enough time to chat with this new guy.
He introduced himself as Segun and I did too. The next question was "will you be my girlfriend?"
I smiled and didn't even think about it because I was dying to be in a relationship. I said yes and that was the beginning of a love I had wanted.
My first kiss happened a few days after.....don't blame me, please. I wanted this and I got it without forcing myself. We did kiss so real and I was on top of the world.
This guy loves me and I realized true love is always real for some people while some aren't lucky enough, but I guess I wasn't lucky after all.
I was so blinded in love that I would try to keep this relationship growing while I was stealing from mom to give to him and he would always accept.
I was so foolish to be the one taking care of a guy with my act of stealing from mom. Our relationship was secret but known to my only brother who reasoned with me and was my partner in crime. Lol
Segun was a selfish guy who never spent on me for the four years we were in a relationship together.
Remember I said the love was a selfish one?
He didn't spend a dime on me but I did on many occasions. Should I say all guys that bear "Segun" are stingy and selfish because I had another relationship with the same name but the selfish attitude wasn't as bad as my first love's own.
He gained admission before me and he would always demand money and recharge cards which I would steal from mom to send to my guy.
When he gained admission, he started cheating on me and wouldn't let me know. When he comes home, he will come to meet me and request for recharge card and still wouldn't call me, and when he goes back to school, he won't call or ask of me.
The day I knew he was cheating on me was when he posted a girl's picture on Facebook with the caption "my love"
I felt bad and used. Though one thing I am happy about today was that Segun was a calm guy who never forced me to sleep with him. He understood me and said he would wait for the right time. Perhaps he could have been happy if he had penetrated.
Though he was caring but stingy. He would come around and we would both play and gist whenever my parents aren't around. Many times we kissed.
Oh my! Segun was a good kisser and as I am writing this, I miss kissing. How I wish I am in a relationship. Don't just deprive me of that even if we don't do the hmmm馃榿馃榿
Of what use is caring in other aspects but can't spend on your girl?
When I gained admission into the college of education in 2012, I stopped chatting with him when my eyes were opened and I realized I have been fooled and toiled with him all along.
The last time we would see again was when he visited my school. It was in the year 2019 during my degree studies. He was posted to a state after my school for his NYSC and he had a problem on the road which made the journey delayed and it was getting late. He called me when he remembered his girlfriend was in school and after he explained what happened too, I pitied him and allowed him to come sleep over till the next day.
Segun didn't think of buying me ordinary bread or biscuits but came thinking of what to eat. I made sure I didn't cook any meals for him because I meant not cooking for him. He had to call his Aunt who pleaded I should cook for him so he doesn't go hungry before continuing his journey the next day.
Segun made me familiar with his parents and they knew something was going on but does that guarantee a good relationship?
I had to forget about him completely and since we got separated in the year 2019, I still remember him today. I still can remember his phone number even after deleting his contact since then.
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