We’ve definitely found ourselves where we had to slowly drift away from certain sets of people; for some, it isn’t like they are being proud to let people out of their lives, it is situations that make that happen.
In this life, we are to understand where to set boundaries and limits; otherwise, people will keep stepping on our toes, and when we don’t talk, they assume it is something normal.
So, they keep coming with that attitude, and when you decide to turn back, especially when they have pushed you to the wall, they begin to hurl all manners of insults at you.
Just because we don’t talk doesn't make us fools; we only want to be kind, but in situations where they have crossed the limits, saying no won’t hurt.
For others, it is their pride, and that can be dangerous because when we act on such an attitude, gradually sending people out of our lives because we feel we are above them, life is like water, where we don’t know where we will meet. Life has a dramatic way of crossing paths.
For me, I have had to ghost people, not because I feel I am above them or letting pride control me, but the fact that some of them do not know where to set limits and because you allow them, they keep coming until you can’t take it anymore.
Same thing with people ghosting me, too, and when I noticed this, I tried to understand the reason behind that, and when I tried reaching out to them to know what went wrong, and still they keep such an attitude, I would believe we can never be with people forever.
God has designed it that there is a time period for whoever comes into our lives, whether to influence us positively or negatively, and sometimes, He makes some people glued to you forever, and that’s a big gift we should never undervalue.
I ghosted someone not long ago, and to me, I felt it was worth my value because I appreciate when people know their boundaries and do not just keep coming just because I don't talk. It was a random guy I met on one of these days. He’s a security guard in one of these buildings around my area, which is an estate. He is a good person who would greet me when he sees me around.
Perhaps I guess he thought I was one of those girls he could talk to and then enter into them so cheaply. After meeting him several times on my way to get things, and we used to talk about random stuff, you know, when you keep seeing someone every time, you assume they aren’t strangers anymore. One of those days, he begged me to give him my number. I didn’t quite get the thing and I never wanted to give him.
After insisting, I gave him my number. In fact, I was quick to release my main number, a mistake I made because I wanted to give him the other line where I rarely pick up calls, but I’d started saying the numbers when I realised the mistake. I was like, “No problem.” And that was it.
It started when he chatted me up, which I took days before replying. After a while, he moved to calling me “dear.” I was shocked at first, but I wanted to see where he was going. Then, he went on to ask me to introduce him to what I do since he doesn’t see me going out to work and he assumed I am working from home and a big girl 😁
He chatted with me one day and said that if I don’t introduce him to what I do, he will always ask me for money. Haha na! What has Princess put herself into now? My mind told me not to reply to him, which I didn’t, and that was how the ghosting started, where he would chat and I wouldn't reply.
But the day he crossed the line was when he chatted one day and said, “My love, why haven’t you called me all this time?”
Reading that, my head turned 360 degrees first, then I calmed down because I didn’t want to say what I might regret later. I don’t like treating people with contempt or disrespect. How dare he call me such? Besides, I never called him before. He thought I would be like those girls who would get turned up seeing such a phrase.
Then, immediately, I didn’t say anything to him; I just blocked him straight away. I have had enough! This decision didn’t make me ignore him when we see outside because after then, we have seen many times when I go out and we greet and I stop to ask about his day. But that was the last time we ever talked online.
People should learn to know how to approach and communicate, especially online, because not everybody is the same as they might assume them to be.
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