You must stop arguing angry people it almost always end badly and you get burned.
If your pot is hot you don't grab it at that point you leave it to cool and when it looks and when it cools you can touch it as much as you want that is how to treat angry folk leave them alone until they calm down when they come down you can then review them your alternative is to to not get burned.
Don't allow them to burn you down, to drain you, to trigger you and make you react the way you don't react and they make you just regret your actions. Learn value, learn grace and learn how to really make things work out for yourself.