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1. Make An Effort To Understand.

When people don't understand each other, they tend to disagree. When one person is so focused on being heard that they don't spend any time trying to understand, conflict is inevitable. You may learn to tolerate and accommodate—even appreciate—a different point of view once you realize that most of us are more alike than we are different. So, first and foremost, endeavor to comprehend and appreciate. That doesn't mean you have to agree; it just means you're willing to listen.

2. Look past your own personal triggers.

Many conflicts arise as a result of someone being offended by anything stated. Fear and awareness of one's limitations are generally the triggers. Whatever happened in the past, you must find a way to see past your triggers and see that you are in a fresh circumstance with someone who is not trying to hurt you.

3. Remove yourself from your situation.

Gerald Weinberg mentions "egoless programming" in his landmark book The Psychology of Computer Programming. This approach involves a group of technical programmers, including the program's author, reviewing the software and looking for faults. The review process will be more fruitful if the programmer is less defensive about the code. In other words, if the programmer removes himself or herself from the program and does not regard detected faults as personal attacks, the process will go more easily. We will have a tougher time remaining objective about our positions if we become emotionally invested in them. Because of this lack of objectivity, an argument can drag on unnecessarily.

4. Take Time To Listen

If you can, listen to individuals completely before reacting. If you have to interrupt someone because they are talking too much, attempt to summarise your knowledge first. People sometimes express themselves in unexpected ways. If you don't listen, you can find yourself responding to what you think the other person's viewpoint is rather than what the other person's actual perspective is. By taking the the time and effort to listen more carefully, we can avoid a lot of disagreements

5. Instead of looking for differences, look for similarities.

Finding common ground is one of the simplest approaches to start settling a disagreement. When you focus on your differences, the gap widens, but when you look for what you have in common, the gap narrows. Look for a point of agreement the next time you're in a disagreement—even if it means stretching.

6. Speak In The Positive

No one wants to be called names, to be criticized, or to be reminded of all the awful things they've done in the past. You will harm and shut down the person if you speak in the negatives. It's a lot more likely that you'll be heard and that the argument will be settled more quickly and simply if you can bring positivity to what you're attempting to communicate.

7. When The Disagreement Is Resolved, Put It Behind You

We all know the saying about "water under the bridge." Once a matter is settled, don't keep a record of wrongs. Let it go. Dwelling on past differences seldom leads to productive results and can lead to bitterness and bad feelings. Look back only to learn from what happened, so that you can avoid similar mistakes (if any) in the future.

Disagreements are inevitable, but they don't have to be destructive. Try these methods and see how much faster, better, and quicker you can get things done.