I understand that directness! And there are times when you have to be direct, even if it is something that someone does not want to hear. That is amazing that you caught yourself in a pattern of behavior and decided to change it on your own - most people don't change in that regard, so that is impressive. As for whether or not they were aiming to hurt me... "Lavanda" and "Hannah" were just ignorant as to people's feelings. "Lynn," on the other hand, was just downright cold-hearted and nasty. And she seemed so sweet when we first met... Thanks for reading!