In so many parts of the world, especially here in Africa women are raised to be men pleasers. "They" will say you should do whatever will please your husband and whatever you feel should be flushed down the drain as he should be your priority.
If someone tells you that you should become a wish factory for someone else without putting your feelings into consideration, do not take them seriously.
Giving is beautiful, but you need to receive as well. Unlearn the view that you should be the only caregiver; that you have to always be the one to sacrifice because you are female.
Acknowledge your feelings and desires. Acknowledge your needs and work towards fulfilling them. No one deserves to drain you and give you nothing in return, whether he is your husband or not. You are a living, breathing human being just like anyone else.
Don’t allow people to dismiss your needs or put them as second to others. You are important; you need to receive in order to give. If any relationship is not satisfying you, whether physically or otherwise, find solutions and if it doesn’t work out, walk away.
There is no need for staying with someone who views your feelings as less just because of your gender. You matter too and so do your desires and needs.
