Dear steemitians,
Let them that have ears hear.
Usually younger men when they find a lady to relate with for marriage they want to prove it that they are well able by spending every coin & pen to their fiance.They create a mindset that the newly found lover is truly a man who will never be broke in life.They presume that this kind of man should be held with two hands such that he meets every single need in a flash as money is not an issue to him.
But when you follow it up you will see how he may live an indepted life.A life of credits because he wants to satisfy the lady so that she doesn't ran away to other men.Mind you,you cannot tame your spouse for money she may use the same resources you give her to attract other men to herself.
A real woman is not attracted by a man who flashes money or things a woman needs a mature man who can take care of her with or without money.She needs someone who can feel,do & touch where money cannot.
Remember Once you get married your woman would want to see more money than before once you stop flashing dollars that itself will be a source of conflict because you attracted that wife of yours wrongly. Most of the problems we encounter in marriage we create them ourselves & later blame the innocent devil who just took advantage because you opened the door.
During courtship never behave like you are alpha & omega to your fiance let your humanity nature be real.The essence of marriage is to bring the two different people together. Once you appear to be like a star your fiance will react differently when she realise you are a fake man.
Am not saying spending on your fiance is wrong but your attitude matters because it may fight you in the future.Be real,set your record straight so that your wife to be will know her limitations & a place in your life she need to fill up the void.
So take it easy be yourself fast things do not work for marriage reason together plan for things that will make a difference in your lives. Marriage is an investment for your future children children's.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A FAST FOOD CAFE..
