You have a very valid point, and I definitely think there is room for discussion on the front of pride. I think that pride is definitely tied to the overcoming of hardship, but it is also important to take into account the history of pride and heteronormativity, and how even outside of personal struggles with family, marriage, jobs, etc., it is also something to take pride in just to live and love in a society that even now can still discriminate against that. It's a shame that that individual attacked you and refused to listen to what you had to say, and I'm sorry about that :(