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Some problems that arises with parenting is how to settle the children's school fees, how to impact good morals to your children, health challenges which is classified under unforeseen circumstances that normally brings tough time to parents. Over the years I have seen parents not lacking to sponsor health issues of their children because people have learnt to implement the "Saving policy" so as to enable them fight challenges that may arise in the future.
We are all aware of the kind of generation we are in now and how children behave totally different from how it use to be before. I understand that a lot of parents are finding it difficult to guide their children's behavior specially in the generation we are into now. I have this one idea in my heart on how to take care of my children which resulted from the experience I had with my father during my secondary school days.
It is really sad that there are parents that don't give listening ears to their children which affects that smooth parent to children relationship. I had that problem with my father, it was difficult for me to secure my dad's attention and even when I succeed on doing that almost everything I was going to say is wrong, he feels he knows everything and no idea is better than his.
Olya Adamovich
I had series of problems in my secondary school that made me to start misbehaving in school, I got involved with bad boys and I was becoming like them already. I began to practice cultism in school, I join the bad boys to go and rob the school shop and while my mates were bullying the junior students, I was bullying my mate and even threatening my seniors. That character was becoming part of me and I could noticed I was changing. I told my father I want to change school, he was supposed to find out reasons for that but he persisted that I will not change that school wether I like it or not.
To cut the long story short, I forcefully refused to go back to that school and that was the point of turn around for me. I found myself back and a total changed person. If I didn't take that decision I would have been in the streets probably the leader of a cult gang or something but I am grateful to God for how he leaded my step.
Sadly my dad isn't alive anymore to see how my lifestyle is now but I have learned a lot from what conspired between me and him. To train up a child as parents doesn't mean we can live that life for the child but we can help him understand how he or she can leave life and not regret it tomorrow. Listening to your children's opinion is good too and corrections should be done in love and carefulness. If you continue to be hash on the child, they will definitely become scared of relating valuable information about their lives to you as their parents and that is why I will be so mindful of that aspect. I will teach my child and not shout at him or her always. On this note, it doesn't mean I will spare the rod but I will make sure trying it the hard way doesn't become the sole option in my parenting.
Laura Fuhrman
Treating a child with iron hand in our generation will end up making things worst because I have witnessed a scenario where a girl child wasn't allow to even come outside of the house if not that she is going to school. The girl later got pregnant out of wedlock, how? I don't know. Treating a child with love and care is the best part I will make sure to implement in my parenting later in life when I procreate. I will not forget to allow them make decisions too and also listen attentively to them, through there I will get to hear from them what may be disturbing them that they can't share to anyone else.
