Long distance relationships can be complicated. There's a popular idiom that says Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I am of the opinion that's a fallacy. Long distance relationships can be chaotic and antagonizing. It gives room for secrets, third party, longing, loneliness and deceit. Chelsea and Tom had been in a relationship for more than 4 years but they were staying in different countries. They loved each other so much that they were willing to make the relationship work. Chelsea was a data analyst who worked remotely so she was always on the Internet but could barely go out, but Tom worked two jobs in a day so he barely had time to himself, but they always made plans to talk, FaceTime and video calls but that's not what keeps a relationship.
Tragedy struck in Chelsea and Tom's relationship when Chelsea lost her job and was in the process of getting a new job. Now she wanted all of Tom's attention but he was always busy. Chelsea started craving for attention and she could not get it from Tom.
Tom was trying to work hard so he can bring Chelsea over but Chelsea needed all of his attention and care at the moment but it was not possible.
Then came in Sam, Sam started out as been friends with Chelsea but as time went on he made her laugh, brought a smile to her face, gave her butterflies in her belly, made a blush like a teenager and made her giggle like a child. Tom and Chelsea started growing apart, they knew there was a disconnection but no one was ready to address the elephant in the room. After some months Tom decided to surprise Chelsea but instead he got the biggest shock of his life, he met another man making his woman giggle like a child, Chelsea was surprised to see him and tried to explain and appeal to him telling him it was not what he was thinking but which man would be happy to see the woman he loved be comfortable around another man. Tom and Chelsea finally decided to address the elephant in the room and it came with some many hurtful words and shown vulnerability.
They had to unmasked and unpack every unsaid feelings and emotions it took a toll on their relationship for a while but since they loved each other and were willing to make it work they had to make sacrifices and also compromise on some many things.
Chelsea cut ties with Sam and Tom had to make prioritize the important things in his life since Chelsea was one of them he was not ready to lose her so they came to a conclusion to visit each other once in very month, talk every month, be vulnerable to each other as often as they can, talk about their fears, burdens and feelings without making the other feel bad.
Long distance relationships can be complicated but even the hardest of love can withstand the test of time or country.
My entry to #inleo #februaryinleo day 19.
