There is a popular children's song for the Soviet film about the "Little Red Riding Hood" - I can not make a poetic translation, but the literal translation is:
"If long, long, long,
If long along the pathway,
If long along the path
Go, fare and run,
That, perhaps, then, of course,
That, probably, is true, true,
That, probably, it is possible, it is possible,
Fortunately, you can come"
And yet most people do not like that this track is long, long ... And in some places, and not even a path, and dense thickets - the jungle.
The thing is that we were persuaded many times over the childhood and, after all, were deceived that our mood should depend on external stimuli and events. We believed and created in our subconscious a lot of programmo and sensors - when you can rejoice, and when "laughter without reason - a sign of stupidity."
But when you become adults, do you now know the truth? You have read many quotations, sayings or scientific works that claim that ... it is from your internal state that external results and incentives depend.
This means that it takes a long time to regain the right to automatic happiness, which you always had as a child. You just right ousted this right from memory (and the memory of your childhood disappeared in detail), as something harmful. This is the strongest instinct for imitating children to their parents and other authorities...
Yes, there were many positive sides in this imitation. You looked at adults - you wanted to be the same as they ... big wizards! It's only you copied them too well - at the same time with seriousness, bad mood and strict limitation and ways of obtaining joy.
And the truth is that you can - always! Every breath! You did this as a child. Therefore, everyone is so drawn to children and animals - they are able to do this, they allow themselves.
They can and nobody thinks they are crazy)
But the fact remains, now your mood is controlled by an external stimulus console. The maximum that you can now, after reading these lines, include a good mood - not for long. Because deep inside you do not believe that the "factory settings" of your psyche were different.) It will be a miracle if you allow yourself to rejoice in everything in life and you will have it more than two days.
Although at this time no one except your inner psychological scenarios, attitudes, beliefs, you are not in a bad mood. Your inner strict Parent ...
Can this path go without psychological or spiritual skills / knowledge. Of course you can! But the probability is small...
This is the same as changing every parameter of the computer's operating system. It's a long way, but you only need to go one time. Or continue to be the one who is programmed to live with a sad face. Every day - a circle after a circle.
1 2 3 4 Now this is your adult, conscious choice!