Habits.

First of all, a selfish and prideful person cannot be my friend. Matter of fact, seeing such traits repels me. But let's assume that all those traits didn't show from the onset and we become friends, the only traits I might manage to tolerate will be laziness. Yes, it's not a good thing, but it can be excused if the person isn't lazy about things that they know are too serious to be lazy about.

For example, back in school, I had a friend that wasn't too strong academically. He always complained about how everything is overwhelming him and all. Even when they give assignments he will wait till the deadline before trying to do the assignment, yet he will end up not wanting to do it anymore. Giving the excuse that he can't kill himself. I had tried severally to carry him along when I study but he either gives one excuse or the other, or he doesn't show up at all. It continued that way until he saw and understood where his CGPA was headed. He was still lazy about his academics but he made some improvements; he started attending classes more frequently, and doing his assignments or getting someone to do it for him. But the thing he did that made me know that I can tolerate his laziness was when he stayed up all night to study for an exam. That was when I understood that he wasn't totally helpless, he just needed something to give him a push.

Now, for the other two traits, hubris and selfishness, if I begin to notice them in any of my friends, the first thing I'll do is let them know that I don't like nor agree with such behaviours. And I will assume that they will want to change. But if after a while I see that they aren't making any effort to shift away from such behaviours, I will begin to retract, and eventually we will become just acquaintances.

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